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Frozen Embryo Adoption, part 2

Good Intent, No Morally Licit Solution

DIGNITATIS PERSONAE was released from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (September 2008) and the verdict about embryonic adoption was negative, making any satisfactory or positive solution dubious for these children in frozen limbo. A strict reading of the few words said about the matter would imply that it still falls under the same prohibition as regular IVF. The instruction states:

It has also been proposed, solely in order to allow human beings to be born who are otherwise condemned to destruction, that there could be a form of “prenatal adoption”. This proposal, praiseworthy with regard to the intention of respecting and defending human life, presents however various problems not dissimilar to those mentioned above (in regard to IVF).

If these problems are deal-breakers, then my initial sympathies on the issue, as were those of Professor May are wrong and Msgr. Smith was right. There is nothing we can do.

  • Propagation outside of the conjugal act is immoral.
  • The IVF process (the intervention of a technician) and the destruction of excess embryos is immoral.
  • The freezing of embryos is immoral.

All this is granted, but where do we go from here? The instruction goes on to say:

All things considered, it needs to be recognized that the thousands of abandoned embryos represent a situation of injustice which in fact cannot be resolved. Therefore John Paul II made an “appeal to the conscience of the world’s scientific authorities and in particular to doctors, that the production of human embryos be halted, taking into account that there seems to be no morally licit solution regarding the human destiny of the thousands and thousands of ‘frozen’ embryos which are and remain the subjects of essential rights and should therefore be protected by law as human persons.”

I guess that pretty much takes orthodox Catholics out of the embryonic adoption business. The prohibition may not be absolute, but it certainly weighs against it.

DISCUSSION

ROBERT: Speaking from a purely biological perspective, the static or frozen human embryo is not technically alive. There are certain biological prerequisites that it would need to possess in order to meet that definition. There must be (and is no) movement (or ability to detect and respond to internal or external stimulus), capacity for reproduction or heredity, growth or development, metabolism, or ability for that person to maintain homeostasis while frozen. The frozen person is cellular and highly organized – and therefore exhibits only one criterion of living things, but unfortunately it is impossible to differentiate that particular trait of the frozen embryo from a fully grown, and then deceased and frozen person. The difference between a frozen embryo and a corpse lies in a potential for life – a potential which is – even under the best of conditions for the embryo – both certainly uncertain and unable to be predicted.

FATHER JOE: Taking the question of the soul aside, the Church and many moral philosophers and various scientists regard the embryo as a human life from the first moment of conception. Any subsequent stasis or slowing down of the metabolic processes does not make a life suddenly cease and then reappear after a thawing or quickening process. If at any time it is permitted to continue its developmental trajectory, and survives the freezing, thawing and implantation, it will reveal that it was a certain type of living organism all along. If any of this species do not survive, the few that do will illuminate their identity as well. The biological traits of life must be viewed not from any one temporal moment but from the entity’s entire chronology. Children for instance cannot reproduce; but after puberty and sexual development, this deficit is usually overcome. However, this trait of a living organism is not present in every individual. Some living and true human beings are defective in their natural powers. However, it should be admitted, that the freezing of either embryos or fully developed human beings can result in the death of these entities. If the moral concerns of IVF apply to embryonic adoption, then there is no viable moral recourse to reanimate the embryos and to allow them to mature into full-term babies.

ROBERT: A frozen embryo, therefore, is a real person who is not really alive – the frozen embryo, while not a “potential person” is only potentially alive.

FATHER JOE: I cannot see how one who is alive can become “potentially alive.” There is life and there is death. In between are various levels of health or viability.

ROBERT: The post-IVF implantation of the embryonic person into a surrogate mother is in and of itself both against natural law and intrinsically evil. Just as with contraception, (but in the opposite direction) it separates the two-fold purpose of the conjugal act. Because the cart is truly before the horse here, the frozen person has already been created – a person who is, however, only potentially alive.

FATHER JOE: Where do you get this notion of “potentiality” in living? Did I miss it in any papal clarification or in the definition from the Congregation for the Faith? Is freezing really a limbo between life and death? Is that what you mean? A sperm and an egg signify potential personhood and a potential particular life. But can a person only be potentially alive? I cannot fathom how it could be so. We might regard persons as living composites of body and soul. If life is lost, the soul flies to its Maker and the body is reduced to an inanimate corpse. While the freezing process certainly affects animation, the embryo still suffers a continuing degradation. That is a type of movement I suppose. After only a few years, it is difficult to reclaim many of the embryos in implantation. Although there is currently no viable technology, would you argue that any futuristic cryogenics whereby adult human beings could be suspended for decades or centuries and then revived would only constitute “potential” life? They are not really dead. They would not be akin to reanimated vampires or walking zombies if permitted to be resuscitated.

ROBERT: The implantation of the IVF-created embryo carries forward the task of bringing about his or her actual life.

FATHER JOE: Here again I am troubled by a phrase, this time that of “actual” life. I am not convinced one can make such distinctions. It may simply be a case, as the Pope seems to be saying, that there are some living embryonic human beings (although frozen) that we cannot save.

ROBERT: It fulfills this necessary step at the cost of the self-donative intimacy intrinsic to the conjugal act itself and is thus innately disordered.

FATHER JOE: Yes, that seems to be the Vatican position and was held by the late Msgr. Smith of Dunwoodie.

ROBERT:

No person can participate in such an act without sin – a sin that is not diminished by arguing from a position of utilitarianism or consequentialism.
From a more theological perspective, although we esteem Mary, Virgin and Mother, as a perfect model for Christian life, this does not mean that we should ourselves deign to overshadow the conjugal nature of the procreative act, for in so doing we deign to establish ourselves as God and hold ourselves above the natural law that He established.

Again, in order for a valid Sacrifice of the Mass, there is a necessary form and substance. It would not be acceptable to start with the Eucharistic Person prior to the act of consecration. Nor could a priest place bread and wine in the tabernacle and have it be God without first consecrating the Transubstantiative Sacrifice on the altar. Just so, it is out of place for those of the married vocation to approach the procreative altar of their marriage bed, not with bread and wine (sperm and ova), but with the preconceived presence of a person who was brought about without the necessary and donative sacrifice of self. A non-spousal participation (the technician effecting the implantation of the embryo that the surrogate parents bought) adds further to the disorder wreaked by not having the donative and free gift come from within the sacramental bounds of the marriage.

FATHER JOE: Although Dr. William May argued for embryonic adoption as an act of sacrifice and heroism, what you say here, he taught me over 25 years ago.

ROBERT: As was stated in Dignitas Personae, this is a true moral quandry, one which presents no possible solution. Those who act on the supposition that the adoption and implantation of embryos is a morally good or heroic act should know that they do so at the peril of their souls.

See comments for a follow-up.

Frozen Embryo Adoption, part 1

A few years ago I grappled with the topic of FROZEN EMBRYO ADOPTION. Prior to the definitive decision of the Holy See, I examined the various arguments on both sides of the debate. This was an argument between men and women counted within the orthodox Catholic camp. It did not directly regard a controversy with liberal dissenters. The inspiration for the reflection was a paper prepared by a close friend for her ethics class.

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Dr. Germain Grisez (a philosopher), Dr. William May (a theologian), and Fr. Thomas Williams were on one side and on the other was the late Msgr. William Smith, a moral theologian and Thomist who was known as tough and very traditional. The Holy See would eventually side with Msgr. Smith.

If nothing can be done to avert the death sentence facing frozen embryos, then what purpose would embryonic adoption serve? One critic remarked that the adoption was okay but not the thawing and implantation. Is there something contradictory to this logic? Is it not disingenuous to declare such adoption morally licit while condemning any attempted thawing and implantation?

It would seem to me that embryonic adoption by necessity refers to the whole process (from adoption to implantation) and that any particular distinctions remain simply helpful abstractions. What constitutes embryonic adoption other than the implantation of thawed out embryos? The first part cannot be defined as something distinct from the necessary operation. The whole sequence (adoption, implantation and birth) is either morally right or it is immoral.

But maybe the contradiction is mine? Msgr. Smith might contend that the “whole process” that must be considered begins with the initial egg harvesting and fertilization, which the Church clearly teaches is wrong and immoral. Msgr. Smith would claim that if any part of this series of events is illicit, then the whole business is forbidden.

The very word, “adoption,” signifies several things: that the embryos are human persons (not a commodity) and that there is a maternal bond, albeit juridical and not biological. As far as natural law is concerned, which could be argued to prohibit such adoption, one might make contrary correlations. There is hardly anything natural about sustaining human embryos in frozen cocktails. It would seem more in tune with natural law to restore the embryos to a natural unfrozen state and to deposit them into the type of place where the Creator intended them to exist, in the womb. If half of the frozen embryos survive the thawing process, and still fewer undergo a successful implantation; does this not parallel the natural course of things? After all, many embryos are regularly lost and reabsorbed by the woman’s body, often without her awareness.

A serious charge is made, that the doctor who thaws out and implants the embryo is guilty of murder. I would hesitate to say this unless he and his clients were also the ones who originally harvested and fertilized them. A declaration of guilt toward those seeking to adopt embryos seems to ignore their pro-life sympathies and efforts.

Further, if our emphasis is upon the shortcomings of current science and the insistence of a 100% thawing survival rate, then authorities argue that frozen embryos must be left in cryopreservation. This is unreasonable. A 100% success rate is statistically impossible, no matter what technology might develop. Some of the embryos themselves may never have been viable. Similarly, no such success rate can be achieved for implantation. Normal pregnancies sometimes have complications and there is even a mortality rate for mothers. This last fact shows something of the courage that women possess in wanting to adopt these embryos rejected by their biological parents.

It seems overly pragmatic to base its legitimacy upon feasibility statistics and failure rates. There might be some weight to the “wait” argument, if embryos could be frozen indefinitely without harm. However, we know that this is not the case. There is a definite shelf-life, maybe as short as five years. There is no intent in embryonic adoption to kill the embryos. Indeed, it might be argued that the loss of some or even most of them in a desperate attempt to save them would be an application of the Catholic principle of double-effect.

Father Thomas Williams says that

Given the current state of medical science, the only thing that can be done to save the lives of those persons is gestation in a woman’s womb. Most women aren’t called to make this sacrifice, but those who feel called should not be discouraged from doing so. . . . An ethical analysis of embryo adoption cannot be based principally on the consequences we foresee. We must ask ourselves what the right thing is to do for these little persons. Sometimes doing the right thing carries with it unpleasant consequences, or mixed results. But to condition our treatment of persons by the possible effects that it will have on others would be to reduce those persons to a means, and our morality would decay into a utilitarian calculus. In fact, speaking of negative consequences, the condemnation of embryo adoption sends out a very inconsistent message regarding the sanctity of human life. On the one hand, we denounce abortion as the killing of innocent human persons; on the other hand, we refuse to help those embryonic persons already in existence. We simply can’t have it both ways (ZENIT Interview 050605).

Msgr. William Smith must immediately change the terms of the debate. He does not believe there is any such thing as embryonic adoption. He classifies this as just a slightly different kind of surrogate pregnancy which has been condemned by the Church (see Donum Vitae). While one critic contended that Msgr. Smith does not extend moral culpability far enough, I think a more extensive reading of his view would show that he would place the doctor in the same circle of culpability with the would-be parents.

While it sidesteps the philosophical discussion to some degree and relies upon Church authority, the instruction, Donum Vitae (1987) taught that “The fidelity of the spouses in the unity of marriage involves reciprocal respect of their right to become a father and a mother only through each other.” A great deal depends upon interpretation because the document addressed the problem of couples having eggs harvested and fertilized which is at variance with those who simply want to “receive” and give a “home” to a child already conceived.

While Msgr. Smith uses Latin terms for his distinctions and appeals to St. Thomas; however, I can assure the reader that Dr. William May is also a friend of the perennial philosopher of the Church. Much depends upon what they associate with the terms. Msgr. Smith, notes the finis operas as “the wife becom[ing] a nine-month surrogate” and the finis operantis as the so-called “adoption”. Along the lines of his reasoning, it does not matter how pro-life or loving or generous these prospective parents might be— surrogate motherhood is everywhere and always wrong and the adoption is a farce because they have no right to the embryo.

The categorization of the adoptive mother as a surrogate is crucial to Msgr. Smith’s argument. He defines the proper mother as strictly the biological one, not an adoptive parent. But, if a juridical relationship is indeed possible, then the new parent would still be receiving her own “adopted” embryos into her womb. There is also the question of the medical personnel who would do the implantation.

If any of these three elements is immoral, then the whole business is wrong. Applied to the doctor, my friend and Confirmation god-daughter claimed that the finis operas is the embryonic implantation and that this is condemned by Donum Vitae. However, it is precisely IVF (in vitro fertilization) that is denounced, the stage that happened prior to the adoption, thawing, and implantation. While implantation would sometimes follow, the fact it does not always is the reason for this question of adoption. We must not force Church documents to say more than they actually do say.

Targeting the doctor further, my friend makes note of the consequences that flow from the thawing process and makes the high fatality rate “the crux of the problem”. It is true that Donum Vitae condemns the cryopreservation of embryos; however, this is a bad situation that we have inherited. We are presuming that those involved with the adoption process also find this practice abhorrent, and by thawing out the embryos, hope to return some normalcy. We are seeking now, not to freeze embryos, or to perpetuate their arctic limbo, but to give those that survive a chance and those that do not, peace and dignity. It is not clear that Donum Vitae would have condemned adoptive parents of embryos and those assisting them of the kind of “manipulation” that the congregation wanted halted. The intention throughout this process is not to destroy the embryos but to assure their survival and life. The late Pope Paul VI was very clear that we did not have to use every extraordinary means to maintain human life. I cannot imagine anything more extreme than freezing human beings in a mixture cooled by liquid nitrogen. Thus, a high mortality rate in an attempt to save them, while unfortunate, might be justified.

Keeping the embryos frozen is not a real answer, as it constitutes in itself an offense against human dignity and the person. The embryo has a right to life befitting its inherent teleology. The genuine object of the moral act here is to make possible the embryo’s development to its proper end, birth into a human family. While the original parents used a few embryos and abandoned the rest, an unlawful utilitarian approach, the adoptive parents seek to give all the embryos a chance at a normal life, even if that chance is slim.

Surrogate motherhood is wrong because it breaches the expression of corporeal love between spouses from the natural transmission of human life. It cheapens and clouds the real meaning of being a parent and the family. Once the damage is done, and the embryos are created, there is a moral obligation to transfer them to their mother’s womb as soon as possible. Despite the artificial intervention at the beginning, the womb is the embryo’s proper home and the only place where it has a chance of survival. However, and this is very important, the embryo has a right to life independent from the receptivity or acceptance of parents. This is true in the case of abortion and this remains true in the sad case of stored embryos.

Transferring the embryo to an adoptive mother, when the natural one is unwilling or unable to do so, must be distinguished from surrogate motherhood if it is to be a legitimate option. Granting that prenatal adoption is possible, there is arguably no detriment to the marital unity or any disruption to the family relationships. It would express their generous and selfless openness to human life in respects to children whose parents were diseased or who had abandoned their responsibilities.

Maurizio P. Faggioni, O.F.M. writes:

This solution, suggested as an to save embryos abandoned to certain death, has the merit of taking seriously the value of the embryo’s life, found in such jeopardy, and of courageously accepting the challenge of cryopreservation. It seeks to check the evil effects of a disordered situation; however, the disordered situation itself within which ethical reason must enter to function in this case profoundly colours the attempts at a solution. In fact, there are serious questions which cannot be concealed: in the first place, the fear that such a singular adoption might not be able to avoid the dehumanizing criteria of efficiency which govern the technology of artificial reproduction.

Is it possible to exclude all forms of selection? Is it possible to avoid the situation in which embryos are produced in order to be adopted? Is it possible to foresee a transparent relationship between those centres which illicitly produce embryos and those in which they are licitly transferred into adoptive mothers? Do we not run the risk of legitimizing and even promoting, unwittingly and paradoxically, a new form of objectification and manipulation of human embryos, and more generally, of the human person?

I have differed from my friend on the object of the moral act, but as for the finis operantis, we can agree that the intention is good or, at least, indifferent. (Of course, this would not be the case if the woman merely saw her pregnancy as a means to an end, with no enduring relationship or bond with the child. She will have the flesh and receptive womb of a mother; but she must also have a mother’s mind, heart and soul.) Circumstances aside, Msgr. Smith says that the whole business of adopting embryos collapses because the finis operis is evil (implantation and thawing). However, I suggested that it was IVF proper and the freezing itself that were condemned as immoral by the Church. In any case, the real moral object of the action is to insure the embryo’s natural development to its proper end as a member of a family, albeit through adoption. This differs somewhat from Geoffrey Surtrees in that he considers the object of the act to be the “home” that the woman makes of her womb for the embryonic child. Germain Grisez notes that there is more to it: the object is the woman having the embryo removed from cryopreservation, implanted in her womb, and then nurturing that child there as any mother would. The woman who adopts and carries an embryo is not simply an instrument to save a child’s life; she becomes the child’s mother. There is a metaphysical or ontological transformation. A bond is created that will remain throughout this life, and forever in the next.

I argued, apparently wrongly, that there may be both a legitimate type of embryonic adoption and an illegitimate form. The external actions may be the same, but an errant motivation could make a permissible act, at least according to some, seriously wrong and akin to surrogate motherhood. If a woman did not have it as her object to start a bond as a mother to a child, a perpetual relationship with dire responsibilities, then she would fall under the condemnations of Donum Vitae against surrogate parentage. It would be an affront to the child’s innate human dignity. Indeed, it would also corrupt her own dignity as a parent. Such motherhood must not be understood as a means to an end. Embryonic adoption, if it is to be legitimate, requires a maternal disposition and change of the whole person.

My friend argued that frozen embryo adoption, and I would object to narrowing the focus of adoption to the ownership of a tray of frozen embryos, incurs “serious moral condemnation.” Do you really think this would incite punishment from God’s justice? While a verdict has since been given, at the time this discussion first took place, the voice of the Church was ambiguous and those who worked at the John Paul II Pontifical Institute seemed to gravitate to the other side of the debate, yes, even commending those who would make the sacrifice.

Are the frozen embryos simply to be surrendered to their fate? My friend argued, and the Holy See confirmed, the answer is yes. The embryos must be left in cryopreservation indefinitely. The heart-breaking problem remains: freezing does not preserve them indefinitely. Unless there is a major leap in technology, and I suspect that voices from critics like Msgr. William Smith will also object against the use of these (like artificial wombs), then we are condemning the embryos, human beings, to certain death. This is more than an abstract moral debate. Some lives will be saved if we act; however, all will die if we do not. Knowing the full implications, we are destined to suffer in conscience about this matter?

Given the difference of opinion about the morality of embryonic adoption, and I must admit that prior to the Holy See’s negative verdict, I leaned in its favor, I was troubled about the possible material cooperation in evil. Throughout, I had a nagging concern about the intrusion of a third party in the process of marital fecundity, the true nature of motherhood (as more than a receptacle or home for the embryo) and on how exactly embryonic adoption expresses the full giving of the spouses to one another. Obviously the principle of appropriation that applies in the transplant of organs could not apply to the implantation of a human being who is a distinct being.

Let me rehash and clarify some of the most pertinent points, as I see them:

1. Magisterial ethicists and theologians are agreed that the frozen embryos came to exist through an immoral and illicit intervention on the part of medical personnel and parents.

2. As to whether or not Donum Vitae, issued by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (headed by Cardinal Ratzinger, now Pope Benedict XVI), forbade embryonic adoption, there was some disagreement. As the congregation so often did, it was proposing guidance on a specific question and was not seeking to promulgate a negative law that would rule universally over every case and those involved. Donum Vitae was directed to the problem of harvesting eggs, artificially inseminating them, and keeping them in cold storage if not used with implantation. It would seem that the first half of this problem does not apply; although Msgr. Smith refuses to allow this distinction, claiming in some sense, that the biological parents are made direct agents for those potential parents who want to adopt unused embryos. Father Williams, Dr. May and Dr. Grisez would no doubt argue that the culpability ends with the first couple and while it is wrong for a mother to spurn her child; still those wishing to adopt would not be contaminated with any culpability. If what the adoptive parents desire to do is judged appreciably different (in species) from the natural parents, then the central point argued by Msgr. Smith would be compromised. Further, the full consideration of the question of frozen embryos had not been considered when the instruction was released and it could hardly immediately rule out something like embryonic adoption that was not yet a scrutinized or perfected avenue of action.

3. Every human being is a gift from God, even the recently conceived embryo. Does not every child have a right to be born? Msgr. Smith seems to put the gravity on procreation and the conjugal act. Critics would argue that we are dealing with a human being already conceived and in need of assistance. It sounds to me as if the sides are talking at cross-purposes. There is a debate, but they are not entirely on the same page.

4. The object of choice for the one couple is adoption, something that is perfectly licit. The object of choice for the other couple is artificial insemination and reproduction which is illicit and wrong. It involves third-party intervention and the side-stepping of the conjugal act, thus alienating procreation from the good of fides, the unitive dimension.

5. It may one day be possible to remove an embryo from a womb, offer DNA repair, and return it safely into the mother. A general prohibition against embryonic adoption might also have the sad consequence of preventing medical intervention to save and/or to treat unborn children in the womb. Another question that is already being discussed is the morality of transferring a child from a diseased womb to a healthy one when an emergency arises. How we decide on embryonic adoption will have far-reaching consequences. Msgr. Smith insists that there is no such thing as embryonic adoption and that the distinctions made represent a kind of slide-of-hand.

Statistics show that Ectopic pregnancies are 17 times greater for the implantation of frozen over fresh embryos. This can be quite problematic for the mother and the fact that she knows the risk demonstrates something of the courage it takes to make this decision. While 50% of the embryos survive thawing, live births of previously frozen embryos only have a 16.8% survival rate over 29.7% for fresh embryos. The procedure, which is not certain, also costs between $6,000 to $9,000; not cheap by any means. We did not have unlimited time to make a decision about this question. It would seem that a high statistical failure rate would not in itself make embryonic adoption morally prohibitive.

Even though there may be 400,000 frozen embryos available, not all of them can be legally adopted. Most couples oppose the donation of embryos and either keep them cryogenically frozen, or if too expensive, have them destroyed in a saline solution and cremated. What we see here is the same mentality that we observe in abortion. Women will make the nonsensical statement that “They could never allow their children to be raised by strangers,” and thus prefer to terminate the pregnancies, thus robbing their children of any life at all— the height of selfishness!

I am not going to get into a big discussion of ectogenesis, as it will take us away from the topic at hand. However, if such should ever leave the sphere of science fiction, it will raise its own serious concerns. Many possibilities are even now being explored. A means may be achieved where a uterus from a cadaver might be transplanted to an animal or DNA re-sequencing might provide a womb capable of sustaining an embryo to birth. Professor Carl Wood actually implanted human embryos into sheep as part of an experiment that fortunately failed. An artificial womb capable of supporting implantation and supporting embryonic development is being theorized by researchers. Except for the most serious emergencies, such methods if perfected would seem to offer excessive danger to the embryo and raise too many questions for children who would look to an animal or a machine as their birth-mother.

For Embryonic Adoption

I have borrowed these citations and information “for” and “against” from Human Life Review, “Where Do Frozen Embryos Belong?” by Brian Caulfield.

My old professor, Dr. William May is one of the chief defenders of embryonic adoption and has a whole section on it in his most recent book:

I believe that the moral object specifying the human act of a woman who seeks to rescue a frozen embryo is not an act of surrogacy, nor (is it) to substitute for the relation to the father a mere arrangement with a technician. What precisely is the object? (It is) the adoption of a frozen embryo, a human child abandoned by those who have generated it. (It) is to give the adopted child a home.

Bishop Elio Sgreccia, of the Pontifical Academy for Life, said that embryo adoption has “an end which is good” and cannot be dismissed as illicit. But given the high failure rate of implantation and the fact that the process of freezing and thawing may cause many embryos to suffer genetic damage, he concludes, “Can we really counsel women to do this? It would mean counseling heroism . . . The issue is one big question mark. The point is we should never have gone down this road to begin with.”

Against Embryonic Adoption

Mary Geach, an English philosopher, as well as a wife and mother, could not disagree more. Dr. May summarizes her argument,

She claims that if a woman makes her womb available to the child of strangers and allows herself to be made pregnant by means of a technical act of impregnation, she shares in the evil of in vitro fertilization . . . she ruins reproductive integrity… By allowing herself to be made pregnant by the technician’s art a woman engages in a highly defective version of the marital act.

Brian Caulfield writes:

To me, the choice of adopting an embryo makes a woman redefine herself in terms of something that is at the root of her being: her ability to get pregnant, bear new life, become a mother. To separate this inherent capacity from the intimacy of conjugal relations goes too far. It not only separates a wife from her husband, by interposing another impregnating party; it separates a woman from herself if she uses her womb merely as an instrument for the good end of saving a life.

Names of some in favor of embryonic adoption: Dr. William E. May, Fr. Thomas Williams, Dr. Jerome Lejeune, Dr. Charles Rice, Dr. Germain Grisez, Fr. Philip Boyle, Geoffrey Surtees and Dr. Dianne Irving.

Names of some against embryonic adoption: Msgr. William Smith, Dr. Daniel Sulmasy, O.F.M., Mary Geach and Brian Caulfield.

DISCUSSION

FATHER JOE:

I spent time praying about this subject of embryonic adoption. Several inherent problems nagged me from the very first. The doctor or technician is a third party and such involvement is generally forbidden when we are speaking about the subject of human fertility. The act by which women become pregnant is naturally the marital act: sexual intercourse between a husband and wife. Several years ago there was a program called GIFT which permitted a husband and wife to engage in the sexual act and then, immediately afterwards, doctors intervened to facilitate the meeting of the sperm and an egg cell. While some thought it would pass muster, it was still criticized for the problem of artificial manipulation. Here, in embryonic adoption, there is no marital act at all. Indeed, some are saying that a woman need not be married to undergo the implantation procedure. That brings with it a whole set of additional problems.

Can she remain blameless, just because the embryo is not from her egg and the sperm that joined with it is not from her husband?

ANNIE:

I have been reading many thoughts on both sides of the frozen embryo issue and I would like to share my thoughts. First, I want to make clear the distinction between adopting a frozen embryo already created and requesting a donor to create a frozen embryo. Clearly the request for the creation falls under IVF and/or surrogacy. Now, regarding embryonic adoption, the act of adopting and implanting the frozen child could not be considered surrogate motherhood. If it is then one could easily argue that normal adoption is a form of surrogacy; another womb carries the child for the couple which has removed “the child’s right from being born from a father and mother known to him and bound to each other by marriage.” This also poses that the act of a normal adoption betrays the couples right of becoming parents only through each other (CCC 2376). We, of course, know that the Church approves the adoption of an abandoned child (CCC 2379).

So, we must remove surrogacy from the argument; but what about IVF? We know that the method or techniques required for IVF are morally unacceptable for two reasons: it undermines the dignity of the child while allowing another dominion over the sacred union of husband and wife (CCC 2377) and it creates extra ‘unwanted’ embryos. Now it is in the term ‘abandoned’ where I believe the adoption of the embryos should be allowed by the Church. According to issue 2379 in the Catholic Catechism, infertile couples have two choices, they can express their generosity by offering themselves to a life of service to others or they can “adopt abandoned children”. Are these embryos not abandoned? Yes, they are; they are no longer desired by their biological parents and are left to die. One person argued that because the act of the original IVF was a sin, the act of adopting the embryos becomes a moral wrong. But was the act that produced the child adopted in a legitimized way not a sin, referring to either sex outside of marriage or the act of rape? Here too we can argue that the ends does not excuse the means, for we offer women and men an option to rid themselves of their responsibility to care for a child produced through the act of sex, allowing them to continue without care for the consequences of their sin. The issue also addresses the possibility of the adoption of the embryos to facilitate a demand; but in America the legitimizing of adoption has created an inflated demand for white babies in which many women will get pregnant just to sell their child. This makes the adoptive parents culpable of the sin by facilitating the demand. We have to remember that there are many who do not follow the law of the Church and will do as they please, but we who do follow the laws will not contribute to the sin by having the embryo created. The issue is not in the creation once the child is created but in the dignity, worth and the status of the life of that child, whether he/she is at the end of fetal development or at the beginning. In actuality, by adopting these abandoned children, we are returning the will of God over their lives to them. If I am wrong in my thinking, please guide me properly to the will of God.

KEVIN:

I have a question to which I legitimately don’t know the answer.

First, I am a new parent of a baby girl (Abigail) who started life as an embryo that my wife and I adopted (we don’t know the parents to this day). Since a part of the process is at the root of my question, let me tell you a piece of our story:

We adopted 5 frozen embryos from the biological parents. They were frozen (as is customary) in ‘strips’- one strip had 3 embryos on it (the one we thawed), the other has 2 (still ‘in the freezer’).

Of the 3 embryos we thawed, 1 died as part of the thawing process. It’s my understanding that when a frozen embryo dies at this stage, the root cause is actually imperfections in the outer cells that get exacerbated by the freezing process. (They actually get irreparably damaged as part of the freezing process; we just don’t know about the damage until thawing).

This left us with 2 to implant. One took hold and grew into Abby, the other died/was passed ‘naturally’.

My understanding is that these statistics are perfectly in line with broad-based averages: 33% die during the thawing process; 50% of those left die/pass/miscarriage after being implanted; the rest are born 9 months later.
Finally, my question: Has my immediate desire for children contributed to putting the embryos (kids) in my charge at additional risk?

What if, in the future, a thawing process is discovered that kills less than 33%? What if there are fertility drugs discovered that increase the odds of implantation to something greater than 50%?

Now I am operating under the assumption that the embryos can remain in a frozen state indefinitely (e.g. a woman in Israel recently delivered twins from 12 year old frozen embryos). So is leaving the embryos frozen for now the safest course of action FOR THEM?

FATHER JOE:

Some ethicists would argue that leaving them frozen might be the only immediate course of action. However, I am not sure how long they can be kept frozen. There is also evidence that this process and the length of cryogenic preservation also degrade the odds for later success with thawing and implantation. As you could see in the post, some argue against embryonic adoption altogether while others contend that it is a selfless and noble pro-life effort, no matter what the odds.

(That is why many of us waited for a definitive answer about it from the Magisterium. The Church had already given a negative verdict to surrogate pregnancy as such, but of course, this was argued as a different question. Now the Holy See has spoken and embryonic adoption is not an option at all for faithful Catholics.)

That makes my earlier speculation rather mute. Rather than directly address your questions, what I can do is praise God for the precious child that survived the process for your little family. Abby is still a miracle of God and I will keep you all in my prayers.

NOT A JOKE:

Have you heard about celebrities wearing frozen embryos in lockets?

http://swiftreport.blogs.com/news/2005/08/more_celebritie.html

FATHER JOE:

I was curious to see how long it took for someone to pick that up. But I am assured that it is a joke. The fake news story reports that certain movie stars and celebrities (like Lindsay Lohan) have embraced the fad of embryonic adoption, but wear them in lockets around their necks, still in cryogenic suspension. Such would reduce human beings to jewelry! If true it would have been all over the news, the biggest thing since the Nazis made lampshades and soap out of Jewish people.

See part 2 of this discussion and the Verdict from ROME.

Links to Spiritual Classics

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The Slippery Slope of Abortion

Someone wrongly argued the following with me: “And the slope between abortion and infanticide is only slippery if you accept that fertilized egg or a partially-developed fetus is in fact a human being. As most abortion-rights supporters claim the opposite, I fail to see the threat.” The discussion dealt with how artificial contraception degraded into an acceptance of abortion and that now it was reaching the new low of outright infanticide.

Actually, most abortion-rights supporters in the vast crowd make no “explicit” claim at all about the unborn, avoiding the discussion about the beginning of human life and personhood— with the possible exception of bloggers and paid advocates. However, particularly given modern tools for viewing the child in the womb, some die-hard promoters of abortion are admitting “it” is human, but not a person with rights. Others are arguing that the rights of the mother would outweigh even the rights of another person, should that person be unborn and “parasitical.”

Many deal with their pro-abortion stand with an avoidance of the biological truth, the real reason why plastic imitation fetuses are forbidden on network TV news. Obviously, the implication is that they do not “recognize” a life having value there; but many people remain pro-abortion no matter whether the child is in the embryonic or late term stages. The slippery slope is not a theory. It has been realized.

Fetal development occurs much faster than people appreciate and is so often misunderstood. There are no partial human beings. There is a child who grows, just as he would grow outside the womb. Certainly the growth changes in the womb are unmatched by anything after birth; but even a newborn infant only vaguely resembles a mature man or woman. They cannot talk, see properly, or walk. Without constant maintenance, they would most certainly expire within a very short period.

The late Pope spoke about this at length when he talked about a culture of death versus one of life. Concern about the “slippery slope” pervades the encyclical EVANGELIUM VITAE. Indeed, one of the reasons Pope John Paul II objected to the death penalty was because he believed a comprehensive and generous response in the cause for life had to be made against the current climate of death. In other words, a society that murders its own innocent children does not have the moral standing to judge over the mortal lives of convicted felons. We become desensitized to the taking of human life.

I should say that the “slippery slope” applies even if one should think there is only life “in potency.” Embryonic human life has all the components necessary for the formation of “fully developed” human beings. The Church insists that once the soul is infused, the subject is a human person with an eternal destiny. But, even more, the slipping and sliding goes back further to the issue of contraception.

While we certainly do not see the person in the sperm and the woman simply as a receptacle, as did St. Thomas Aquinas, nevertheless, a contraceptive mentality is inherently anti-life. If contraception fails, people will now say, “Well, there is always abortion.” Next, maybe they will say, “Well, the doctor says he has a thirty percent chance of heart disease based upon DNA sampling. Why don’t we just get rid of this one and try again, with the doctor’s help?”

Obviously, even the most hardened pro-abortion advocate has trouble with infanticide, once they SEE and HOLD a child. This was the case in Roe versus Wade when Norma held her baby that previously she had tried to abort. That is why many curse GE for their new viewer that shows the child or fetus, with great clarity. It makes avoidance of the real question increasingly difficult. But what if women should give birth while unconscious? Then doctors or husbands or significant others or just prior standing instructions could order the termination of a new born. As in Partial Birth Abortion, once allowed, what does a few inches in the womb or out of the womb matter? The fact that there were as many as 4,000 Partial Birth Infanticides last year (full term babies) is ample evidence of where things have been sliding.

And what if the newborn is not attractive? I used to help out at a facility for the mentally retarded (or “challenged” as it is rendered today). Tommy had a cleft face. His parents wanted him destroyed but the doctor said no. He was quickly abandoned. He had pins holding his eyes from falling into the cavities where cheeks should have been. He had no nose and only a rudimentary mouth. Everyone presumed he was retarded. He moaned and growled. No one could make any sense of it. His best friend was a boy with Down’s Syndrome called Mike. One day Mike came forward and said that Tommy wanted water. What? It turned out that Tommy was speaking, but so unclearly that only Mike could decipher it. Later, despite the odds, it was suspected that Tommy was not even retarded. When I left, the doctors were taking parts of his body and trying to build him a face. I prepared both of these boys for their first communion. Over and over again, I stressed that the host was Jesus and that Jesus was God. The bishop said that was all they needed to know. They both had value, independent of public opinion, or arguments about the quality of life, or the ramblings of pro-abortion politicians.

I have noticed that sometimes young people fail to appreciate the trail of dominoes we have already knocked over. Maybe age and exposure are important to seeing more of the whole picture?

SLIPPING OR FALLING OFF THE SLOPE?

  • 1930 – Anglicans became first Christian church to permit contraception (condoms).

CASTI CONNUBII is the Pope’s strong response.

  • 1960 – Introduction of the Pill.
  • The so-called sexual revolution.

HUMANAE VITAE is the Pope’s strong response.

  • 1972 – Roe vs. Wade legalized abortion.
  • Series of cases and incidents have expanded so-called abortion rights, partial birth infanticide, and euthanasia.

EVANGELIUM VITAE is the pope’s strong response.

The movement against life is not smooth, particularly since pro-life people are fighting such trends. The slipping happens in fits, stops-and-goes.

I have already gone on too long, but I would like to finish with an extended citation from Msgr. Elio Sgreccia of the PONTIFICAL ACADEMY FOR LIFE at the Vatican:

“It is also said that the argument of the slippery slope is a weak one: in my opinion, however, it shows that its perverse efficiency functions unavoidably because it implies the absence of absolute values that are to be upheld and is accompanied by an obvious moral relativism. It functions in the context of euthanasia as in various other fields of public ethics, regardless of whether it is a question of abortion (in this case, one begins with the case of anencephaly and ends up with the case of the child conceived before a holiday), or a matter of procreation (here, the first step is the request for the legalization of the homologous insemination, that ends up with the matter of the authorization of therapeutic cloning). / Once on the slippery slope, not only the logical slant comes into play but also economic interests, and then the slipperiness becomes fatal and inexorable.”

Conscience

What is Conscience?

In speaking about conscience, it might be best to first say what it is not. It is not the comical stereotype of an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other, whispering opposing advice. Neither is it merely an arbitrary feeling that something is either good or bad. Conscience is an attempt of the mind to make an appropriate judgment about whether an action is either right or wrong. True judgment demands knowing the facts and deliberating over them (applying moral standards) prior to an action. We are obliged to follow our conscience even when a false judgment is made. However, as soon as we learn otherwise, (that an action we thought good is actually bad), we must accordingly adjust to agree with a now properly formed conscience. Judgment can be flawed for all sorts of reasons. Nevertheless, we are obliged to follow our conscience even when a false judgment is made. As soon as we learn about our error, that an action we thought good is actually bad, we must accordingly adjust to agree with a now properly formed conscience.

What are some of the ways we can make misjudgments? Well, we might be perplexed, scrupulous, lax, etc. When in doubt, we suspend judgment and do not act until a “certain” conclusion has been reached. Conscience needs to be properly informed and a judgment must be made according to the appropriate law (i.e. natural law, the Ten Commandments, and especially the law of love).

We are Accountable

In all of visible creation, only human beings are called by God to accept responsibility for their actions. We are neither pre-programmed robots nor animals who live according to blind instinct. We have been given free will and an intellect capable of discerning God’s design from both the natural order and from revelation.

Set Free by the Truth

Given the present situation, in the Scriptures and Tradition, we find guidance for ourselves as we continue upon our search to discover what is worthy of us as human beings. In the formation of conscience, the Catholic Christian needs to consider that the power to bind or to loose from sin which was given the apostles, still resides in the Church, and principally in the bishops under the direction of the successor of St. Peter. Rather than a principle of enslavement, it needs to be viewed as one of liberation. “The truth will set you free” (John 8:32).

A Dynamic Christian Conscience

There are extremes in conscience which might not be viewed as healthy. The “static” conscience would have the Church spoon-feed everything. This dismisses the power of the Spirit to enlighten us; it is a fleeing of responsibility. The “dynamic” conscience goes to the other extreme of embracing revolution or even rebellion. No one can tell them what to do, even the Church! The true path is between these two. “We can qualify this as the dynamic Christian conscience. This is the conscience which leads us to have a responsible attitude to someone, to Jesus, to the community, to the Church, etc. Every person who fits into this category feels a responsibility for a progressive search and striving to live out a life ideal according to the mind of Christ” (Formation of Conscience by the Canadian Bishops).

Gay Sex & the Law

I can recall when sodomy was not a “protected right” but a “perverse crime.” It was that way not too long ago. Indeed, any sexual activity, even with a woman, if outside of marriage, was often judged as criminal and there were set penalties. There is division in the Church on the subject and it may be that some have too closely aligned themselves with the American Psychiatric Association which redefined homosexuality from a mental illness to an acceptable sexual orientation.

One of my favorite television programs was DRAGNET. There is one episode where Joe Friday (Jack Webb) is railing against the sins of the city. Among them he lists “sodomy.” When the episode was repeated recently on television, the sound failed precisely when he moved his lips to say the word that is no longer politically correct. In another episode, The Big Kids, there is a dialogue which shows the change in secular morality:

Capt. Lou Richey: It’s not just a problem of law enforcement, it’s a community problem.

Sergeant Pearson: Trouble is there is no community captain. These people come piling in here from every where. They dont know each other and don’t want to. They come out here, make a down payment on a house and move in with a couple of kids. That doesn’t mean they made a home no more than givin’ a name to a place makes it a community.

Sergeant Joe Friday: Yeah and you get a littele weary of hearing every kid give you the same excuse when you tag them. You don’t understand, I just wanna to belong thats why I did it. Belong to what?

Capt. Lou Richey: What it boils down to is the new morality, doesn’t it, a whole new sense of values. The kids see it on television, in magazines. Even hear it from the pulpit. God is dead. Drug addiction is mind expanding. Promiscuity is glamorous. Even homosexuality is praiseworthy. How you gonna fight that?

Officer Bill Gannon: It ain’t easy.

Capt. Lou Richey: What you got to remember that, the vast majority of the juveniles you’re handling are the kids next store. They’re not hard core criminals. It’s just that for them it’s a great deal more important to be accepted by the other kids than to please their parents.

Today, the “love that dare not speak its name” (citing Lord Alfred Douglas) is proclaimed a civil right and thrown into our faces where ever we look, even in Cowboy movies… I know John Wayne is rolling in his grave!

The Church in Boston had to shut down its adoption services because the government made it illegal to discriminate against gay couples. The Archdiocese of Washington has done likewise. Catholic Charities in Los Angeles was almost shut down by a law mandating benefits and insurance (analogous to a spouse in marriage) to the bed-partners of homosexual men and lesbians. Renters are being compelled to permit gay men and women to live and commit mortal sin in their premises.

My faith in our society and the legal system is much shaken. I cannot say that I would generally trust activist judges or spineless legislators to make decisions that would please me or others with traditional values. I concur with the Church that homosexuality is “disorientation” and that to live it out is a grievous offense to God and a corruption of others.

Our compassion and love for them should not translate as utter toleration and/or approbation. We should encourage chastity and celibacy. While it is controversial, where possible, we should pursue proven treatments that have helped thousands to adjust to a heterosexual orientation (as in the work of Dr. Fitzgibbons). This issue is very emotionally charged. We are sorely tempted to look the other way and give homosexual advocates what they want. They insist that not to accept their form of sexuality is a denial of them as persons of worth. But such is not the case. The old cliché still holds, “Love the sinner but hate the sin.” Both natural law and the Scriptures condemn same-sex activity. Sexual expression is restricted to marriage and such is only between a man and a woman. No judge, legislator or shrink can truly change the truth about this. Going through the motions will not make vice into virtue or that which is false into something real. The pendulum is swinging. While gay sex was once illegal; it is now legally protected. Indeed, those who reject it are being subjected to charges of discrimination. I would err on the side of preserving our traditional values but not pursuing matters which would intrude into the privacy of people’s homes. I guess you could say that I would favor bringing back the proverbial closet.

Of course, even if we were willing to leave such people in peace, there will be no peace today for those who oppose the homosexual agenda.

The Commandments

Our Relationship to God

1. You shall not worship false gods.
2. You shall not take the name of the Lord, your God, in vain.
3. Remember to keep holy the Sabbath day.

Our Relationship to Each Other

4. Honor your father and your mother.
5. You shall not kill.
6. You shall not commit adultery.
7. You shall not steal.
8. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
9. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife.
10. You shall not unjustly desire what belongs to your neighbor.

The Greatest Commandment

Jesus asked, what is the greatest commandment? His answer echoes the pattern in the Decalogue of our relationship to both God and to neighbor. Christ says that we are to love God with our whole heart, with all our mind, and with all our soul. Loving ourselves as precious in God’s eyes, he reminds us to love our neighbor as ourselves. This is not a static kind of love; it means forgiving and not rendering evil for evil.

Reflection on the Decalogue

The first commandment reminds us that ours is a jealous God; there is no other before him. He is the one and only! He does not want us wasting our lives on false gods or empty superstitions. Even though there may not be many traditional worshipers of idols cast in stone or bronze, or of figures from nature like the sun or animals, this prohibition is still violated. We see this in dangerous occult toys, like tarot cards and Ouija boards. These things are hazardous to our souls because they sidestep God’s dominion over his will for us. They might even invite spiritual evil to penetrate our lives. This commandment also condemns sacrilege whereby persons, places, or things sacred to God are defiled. Even interest in the popular horoscopes can sometimes escalate beyond simple curiosity and become habitual false guides. God wants us to follow him alone.

The second commandment urges us to treat God’s name respectfully. This necessarily prohibits blasphemy, making false oaths in God’s name, and cursing.

The third commandment tells us to make the Sabbath day holy. For Christians, this obligation is transferred to Sunday. (It is interesting that most Protestant religions accept at least this one precept or legislation of the Roman Catholic Church. Otherwise, along with our Jewish brethren, they would respect it on Saturday.) We sanctify this day by prayer, worship, avoiding unnecessary work, rest, and joy. Therefore, something like failing to participate at Mass on Sunday is not merely a violation of the laws of the Church, but in a very direct manner, an infringement upon this commandment to give God his due.

The fourth commandment exhorts us to respect our parents by loving and helping them, especially when they are in need. While young and under their immediate authority, children must obey their parents. Reciprocally, parents must give a Catholic education to the children entrusted to them. Their spiritual and material welfare is essentially in their hands. The parents may extend or endow school teachers and others with something of their own authority. This commandment speaks to us in a less direct way about authority in general. All just authority comes from God. We are called to obey spiritual and civil authorities when they make legitimate demands. However, if there is a conflict between the laws of human beings and those of God, God comes first.

The fifth commandment prohibits us from either harming our own bodies or those of others. This commandment expands beyond murder or suicide to the various partial degradations: including such things as mutilation, striking another, harmful drugs, drunkenness, and carelessly taking risks with our lives. Abortion is a direct violation of this commandment. Our right to choose should never be deemed a higher priority than another person’s right to life.

The sixth commandment, taken alone, forbids all external sins against chastity. Once sexual activity is condoned outside marriage, as in fornication, it is logically difficult to confine afterwards, as in adultery. The premise is already adopted. Some fifty percent of the couples who live together prior to marriage eventually get divorced. The seed for failure is already planted. Sin is a mighty poor preparation for the nuptial sacrament. Considered with the ninth commandment, all interior sins against chastity are likewise condemned. The human sexual powers are given for the propagation of children and for the fidelity of a man and woman in marriage. Outside of marriage, it is a great evil to exercise these powers, which are not simply expressions of our flesh, but of our very persons— who we are! Inside of marriage, these powers must not be distorted in their purpose or in the motivation of two people in love drawn to union. Lust, even in marriage, is a sin and degradation to what it means to be truly human. It re-categorizes the beloved from a personal subject to an impersonal object. Instead of self-sacrifice and surrender— thinking of the other’s needs and happiness— we selfishly treat the other as a disposable thing with which we can seek our own gratification. If the beloved is no more than an object, then the stage is set for adultery because objects are interchangeable. This is the antithesis of the Gospel. Marriage is called to be a permanent union. Adultery is a gross violation of that permanent union which is to reflect the fidelity between Christ and his bride, the Church. The adulterer plays the role of Satan who would lure us away from our divine groom and from the wedding banquet of heaven.

The seventh commandment rejects stealing and unjust dealings with another. Even if we accept stolen goods, we have broken this commandment. All sorts of things fall under this heading: idling, charging unfair interest, not paying debts, not giving a just salary, and stealing someone’s good name. Restitution is demanded in cases where we have stolen or damaged the goods of others. This last matter draws this commandment to the eighth.

The eighth commandment would have us be a people of truth and good will. We are not to lie or to slander others. If we stumble into this sin, then we need to repair the damage caused by our falsehoods.

The ninth commandment, as mentioned under the sixth, requires us to be mindful of our thoughts. To occupy ourselves with sexual fantasies regarding others, not only breaks down our will in reference to actions, but degrades the one whom we are imagining. This is destructive to the dignity of the person who is reduced to an impersonal object, as in obscene films and other pornography.

The tenth commandment, like the ninth, reminds us that God wants our conversion, both in external action and in our internal disposition. To be open to the grace of his presence, we must free ourselves from within, of those persons or things which we might covet before God. In actuality, we might not explicitly commit a sin against justice, but we might “want” to do it. Even this needs to be weaned away. We need to reach a point in our spiritual life where we do not WANT to steal from or to hurt another.

We Are Shown the Way

There is much which could be discussed in the life of the Christian that falls under discipleship. Jesus shows us the way to the Father. His Mother hears the Word of God and it bears fruit in her very flesh, as the Woman of Faith. Like new Christs, the Twelve and all the followers of Jesus in history reveal something of what it means to be a disciple. During the course of any Christian study, commandments, confession, communion, baptism, and the sacrament of the sick deserve their own attention. All these things speak to our following the call of Christ. We pursue him out of love and obedience.

Precepts of the Church

1. To keep the day of the Lord’s Resurrection holy by worship at Mass on Sundays and on Holy Days of Obligation. We are also to avoid activities which would hinder renewal of soul and body, e.g., needless work and business activities, unnecessary shopping, etc.

2. To lead a sacramental life: to receive Holy Communion frequently and the Sacrament of Reconciliation regularly.

  • Minimally, to receive the Sacrament of Penance at least once a year if in serious sin.
  • Minimally, to receive Holy Communion at least once a year, between the First Sunday of Lent and Trinity Sunday. (However, weekly Sunday Mass attendance is still required.)

3. To study Catholic teaching in preparation for the sacrament of Confirmation, to be confirmed, and then to study and to advance the cause of Christ.

4. To observe the marriage laws of the Church; to give religious training by word and example to one’s children; and to use parish schools and/or religious education programs.

5. To strengthen and support the Church. This consists in assisting one’s own parish community and parish priests, as well as the worldwide Church and the Holy Father.

6. To do penance, including abstaining from meat and fasting from food on the appointed days.

7. To join in the missionary spirit and apostolate of the Church.

The Beatitudes (Matthew 5:3-10)

  1. Blessed are the poor in spirit; the reign of God is theirs.
  2. Blessed are the sorrowing; they shall be consoled.
  3. Blessed are the lowly; they shall inherit the earth.
  4. Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for holiness; they shall have their fill.
  5. Blessed are they who show mercy; mercy shall be theirs.
  6. Blessed are the single-hearted; they shall see God.
  7. Blessed are the peace-makers; they shall be called sons of God.
  8. Blessed are those persecuted for holiness’ sake; the reign of God is theirs.

Corporal Works of Mercy

1. To feed the hungry.
2. To give drink to the thirsty.
3. To clothe the naked.
4. To visit the imprisoned.
5. To shelter the homeless.
6. To visit the sick.
7. To bury the dead.

Spiritual Works of Mercy

1. To admonish the sinner.
2. To instruct the ignorant.
3. To counsel the doubtful.
4. To comfort the sorrowful.
5. To bear wrongs patiently.
6. To forgive all injuries.
7. To pray for the living and the dead.

Discussion About Priestly Service, Scandal & the Church

GH: (initial statement)

The Church has brainwashed you and you are a mere puppet of this institution! It is like a cult, if you do not OBEY or agree with every belief and precept 100%, you are OUT!

I walked away from the church after 25 years of trying to be a good Catholic because all I witnessed were MANY priests leaving to get married. (I knew of 12— that’s a LOT in such a time period!) Several others stayed and had women on the side. Oh yeah, these guys heard my confessions too and had the power to take my sins away— what a joke!

I suppose you think that when they die they will burn in hell, the ones who left and were laicized, I mean. Is this a loving reaction, BANISH them forever? (Their love is disordered, unholy and they all end up divorced, too.)

You wrote that there were only a FEW rascals? You sir are deluded! You try to maintain a facade of good and holy priests; I do not doubt there are some, and in fact pray there are, as we need them. Sadly, I think that it is the exception and not the norm.

You blame the individual men themselves (who left to get married). They wanted to serve God but perhaps after a while felt their heartstrings pulled one time too many? Or maybe they just gave into what you regard as the great sin of falling in love and wanting to be with a woman. Therein rests the conflict of wanting to serve God and wanting to love one of his creations. Why does there have to be a choice and why is the punishment from the church so final and damning?

But there is something wrong with a church hierarchy that claims to have the only true pipeline to God and to the truth while insisting on celibacy that apparently so few can truly live out.

FATHER JOE: (immediate response)

You might like to think that people like me are brainwashed, but nothing could be further from the truth. I was a public school kid. I was even kicked out of Sunday high school CCD. No, I was not stupid; rather, my teacher said I knew too much. It was embarrassing my slower classmates. Actually, I think it was correcting my teacher a few times that was the last straw! Because of ill health and asthma, I read a great deal on my own. Religion fascinated me, but I was no one’s robot. I became convinced of the Church’s claims and tried to appreciate them, not simply from authority but from my reasoning.

If people do not clearly understand their faith, we do not kick them out of the Church. We invite them to read the catechism, adult formation classes, and bible study.

If you left the Church because of hypocrisy then you placed greater faith in men than in God. It is no wonder you defected. You are just making excuses for yourself. You could have stayed in the Church and supported those priests who were faithful to their promises. Instead, you joined the crowd of bad priests and womanizers. How can you complain about them when you aligned yourself with them against the Church and her faithful ministers? You join the chorus of those who mock Catholic priests and their ministry of reconciliation. You should be ashamed.

You are another one presuming that priests like me damn the defectors and others to perdition. Where do you get such ideas? We preach about the mercy of Jesus and yes, about his justice. But God will judge you and me. We are all sinners. The posture of any good priest is to pray for others, especially for those who leave the Catholic fold.

I am not deluded, I am a priest and I know my brother priests. Most are good and holy men. While you falsely depict me as damning others; you have judged me and my brother priests. A few have disgraced themselves and have made headlines. The most publicity many of us will ever have will be our obituaries.

You have been away from the Church and yet you think you know the truth about her priests. You should not sin by such presumption.

Promises are made to be kept. No one forced their hand. I am responsible for my priesthood and so are they for theirs.

Would you excuse a married man who fell in love and left his wife for another woman? I can well understand sinfulness, weakness and passion. All priests over time have their heartstrings tugged; but that is when we embrace celibacy as a true sacrifice.

But what punishment is so final and damning for those who leave? A priest who wants to get married may eventually get laicized. He leaves ministry. However, if he marries in the Church then he can return to the sacraments. He can form his children in the Church. He remains a priest forever but in practice is reduced to the lay state. No one says that he must be consigned to hell.

The deposit of faith is made permanent with the death of the last apostle. No new doctrines are invented although there is organic development. Jesus institutes the Catholic Church and establishes a teaching authority. These are the facts as the Church sees them. Anyone can encounter our Lord in Scripture, prayer and in the Church. The hierarchy shepherd the Church and the Magisterium has a charism to preserve the truth in every generation. Over the centuries, the Church discerned that a celibate priesthood best served the needs of God’s people. I believe this is still the case and I trust God’s grace to help priests in being faithful to their commitments. Yes, there have been some bad apples. But you wrong many good priests. About this you should be ashamed and ask pardon.

I will pray for the healing of your hurt and anger. God bless you!

Subsequent Dialogue

GH: That is the Catholic way, to put shame and guilt on people. I should be ashamed?

FATHER JOE: I do not know what you did. If you did something wrong, then yes, you should feel guilty and ashamed of yourself. Feeling guilty is not a bad thing, when you are guilty. Such remorse moves a person to repentance and to reforming his or her life. The trouble today is that many people no longer know shame and people tolerate all sorts of nonsense. Children and young women dress immodestly. People use bad language without so much as saying they are sorry. Couples cohabitate and fornicate and then get mad when the priest challenges them to either separate or get married. Yes, such people should be ashamed of themselves, not simply because they have destroyed their reputations, but because they have dishonored God by their disobedience.

GH: The ones that should be ashamed are those priests I speak of— I have seen repeated sin and hypocrisy and men masquerading as true priests; they are the ones who MOCK the sacrament of reconciliation, Father, not me.

FATHER JOE: Hopefully bad priests do feel sorry for their poor witness. But there are also good priests who should not have their faithfulness mocked or their ministry invalidated by the failures of others. In any case, we are all sinners; there is enough blame to go around. Just because the shepherds sometimes fall short is no license for the sheep to get lost as well.

GH: Yet they will not leave because they are afraid to; so they live a double life.

FATHER JOE: If you know of priests living double-lives then tell the authorities. They will put an end to it. If this is too drastic, then tell a good priest in confidence and ask him to talk to a rascal in the ranks. I have read the riot act to men and some will listen. But as I said, most priests I know are faithful to their promises and ministry.

GH: I am not wronging the good priests. Where did I say that?

FATHER JOE: Look at your words. You lump us all together and contend that there are more bad apples than good. Such has not been my experience and I have been an active priest for 25 years and in the seminary for 8 years before that. On top of it all, you said that the poor witness of priests caused you to leave the Church. That means you saw nothing worthwhile enough in the work and character of good priests to remain in the fold of Christ’s Church.

GH: I said that there are some true and holy priests, yourself one indeed, but I feel they are in the minority.

FATHER JOE: And, while I appreciate the commendation, I sincerely believe good priests are in the majority. Sure the Church went through some hard times. Many priests defected in the 1960′s and 70′s. Some had trouble with the reformed liturgy. Others thought the rule of celibacy was going to be relaxed and they wrongly got ordained with this false expectation. The 1980′s and 90′s brought the almost unbelievable scandal of child abuse. Homeschoolers and other die-hard Catholics kept the faith and now their children are entering the seminaries in droves. This new generation of clergy is very traditional and serious about their commitments. They are joining ministry with those who remained faithful and steadfast in priestly work. Yes, there were some womanizers and misbehaving homosexuals hiding in the ranks; but as they have been identified they have also been expelled from the active presbyterate. Some men with problems, as with a woman or alcohol, have sought counseling, reconciliation and moral reform. This deserves mention in any evaluation of the Church, too. There are real signs of hope, today.

GH: Yes, this is sad. Perhaps, I have been unfortunate enough to have been exposed to far too many of the so called “few bad apples”?

FATHER JOE: This may be the case. Not every diocese is the same and some formation programs were more successful than others.

GH: I don’t see a long line of potential men answering the call either. Why do you suppose that is? There has been much damage done and a great need for healing in the Church. I unfortunately am one of the casualties.

FATHER JOE: I am not sure how you would see the new men coming forward for priestly ministry, given that you have exiled yourself from the Church. Numbers could be better and worldwide; many missionaries are coming from the Third World to reconvert Europe and the West. The dissenting and progressive Catholic families either had no children or a few who were secular and uninterested in vocations. Our more traditional homes are having large families and encouraging their children to be priests and nuns. This is where the next generation of vocations is emerging. The dissenters have contracepted and aborted themselves out of existence. The youth symbolized by the thousands that celebrate World Youth Day with the Pope are serious about their faith. Indeed, they seem more fervent than their parents. The Holy Spirit is not done with the Catholic Church, yet!

GH: I have read in other topics on your blog that you feel such men are “risking their soul to hell.”..You may as well say they will go there.

FATHER JOE: All mortal sin is risking hell. You cannot fault me for a basic teaching of the catechism. But God will be their judge. He will also be the judge of you and me.

GH: It is all semantics and how you word things.

FATHER JOE: No, such should not be the appreciation of Christians. After all, we follow the living Word and his testimony should never be regarded as confusing semantics. Do not be like Pilate who said back to Jesus, “What is truth?” Jesus is the WAY and the TRUTH and the LIFE. It is still the message and person and saving activity of Christ that is proclaimed and made manifest in the Church. The ministry of priests who participate in his high priesthood is still essential to this Good News.

GH: Then you try to put even more Catholic guilt on me because I have walked away from an institution that makes no sense to me anymore. I have not walked away from God, only the Catholic Church. And we all know that the Catholic Church feels those who do that are also— you got it— “risking their souls to hell.”

FATHER JOE: Jesus established his Church as the living sacrament of salvation. It is a new People of God. Our personal salvation comes within this community of faith. That is why Jesus gave us the sacraments. He extends his work through the ministry of priests. I am sorry if I increase your unhappiness. While I cannot control what you would do, my hope is that you would come home to the safe harbor of faith. If anyone hurt or abused you, I am truly sorry. But that is not what the priesthood and the Church are really about. My work as a priest centers upon teaching the truth, celebrating the Eucharist and bringing healing to others. I would have you seek the sacrament of penance and absolution. You would still have a right to be upset with those priests or churchmen who disgraced themselves. But if they were about the work of the devil then who wins if you should be forever alienated from Christ’s Church? Don’t let the devil win in your life. You say that you still have faith in Jesus; then seek out a good priest. Share your whole story and even your anger with him. Return to the sacraments. You might even think that the discipline of compulsory celibacy should be reviewed. But we need humility and acceptance about such things. We need good people to build the Church up again. Maybe God wants you to be one of those people?

GH: The church exerts her absolute power over her priests that leave… even the ones who are laicized; they are not even permitted to read God’s word or act as any type of lay minister. This to me is unjust punishment.

FATHER JOE: Were you a priest? The priesthood is a ministry that belongs to the Church. She has the right and the authority to regulate it as she sees fit. No man was forced to become a priest. Every man who made a perpetual promise of celibacy had six or eight or twelve years of formation to think about it. I believe that God would give the good candidate all the graces he needs to live out this promise. But we are sinners. A few fail. Often they were remiss in their prayer-life and various duties. One person began to mean more to them than the many over which they were given charge. All the Church asks is that we keep our promises. Laicization is the best that the Church can do. It allows a man to rebuild his life while protecting the ministries of the Church from further scandal. The men themselves often ask for it, particularly if they want to remain within the bosom of Mother Church. The restrictions also help to protect the good name and the authority of the priests who keep their promises and remain on the job.

GH: A priest who leaves is a disgrace and an anathema in the eyes of the church. I said the eyes of the Church, NOT God.

FATHER JOE: Here I would disagree. Such a priest made promises or solemn vows. Yes, they were made to the bishop or superior, but also to Almighty God. Breaking our promises to God is a genuine tragedy. God is the one who gives the initial call. The Church later affirms that divine summons.

GH: The analogy that priests are wed to the church is also overused and makes no sense if the church does not in turn use that same analogy with regards to divorce when priests are laicized.

FATHER JOE: Analogies are not exact, but the comparison of things that share some likeness. The marriage analogy would not make married priests impossible. After all, we have some licitly married priests already. The marriage analogy flows from the meaning of the Eucharist. It participates and manifests something of the marriage banquet of heaven. It is not the same as an earthly and carnal marriage which is dissolved by death. The priest participates in the priesthood of Christ who is the groom to his bride, the Church. This relationship is eternal. The new laicization process makes the laicization stages similar to a Church annulment. However, he remains a priest. He does have to argue that he should never have been ordained. Just as the Church does not recognize divorce between married couples, Jesus will never divorce himself from his Church. The laicized priest will always be a priest, even if he can no longer function. A laicized priest who wanted to get married and have sexual relations would still require a permissorial releasing him from his promises.

GH: True, they may receive the sacraments, but why are they not permitted to be a lector or EMC? Divorced people who had their marriages annulled are permitted to be such lay ministers, but laicized priests are not? Again the church exercises her authority with a heavy hand.

FATHER JOE: There is always a scandal when a priest leaves ministry to get married. It advertises hypocrisy and a double-life. A man should not be rewarded for his sins and for breaking his promises. Allowing such a man to continue some form of ministry is also an insult to good men who did what they were supposed to do. Our actions have consequences. If there is any man who should know better, it is the priest! He is held to a higher standard and must pay a more severe price for disobedience. (Having said this, Church law does sometimes permit laicized clergy to function as teachers of religion, although usually in another diocese where their former priestly ministry is not known. Such is up the local bishop’s discretion.)

GH: And the Church wonders why so many Catholics are disgruntled, confused, hurt and angry? We don’t have enough priests to serve anymore because no one wants to join— churches are closing and the remaining priests are burnt out. Something has to give somewhere.

FATHER JOE: You would be ill served by flooding the ranks of the clergy with disobedient priests. The faithful remnant support and love their priests. My little church is filled with such wonderful and happy people. Many of the Masses are so packed that I have people standing up in the back and along the walls. We may not be wealthy, but the faith is alive. I hope and pray that you will know healing and find this joy once more. God bless you!

GH: Father Joe, I want to wish you the very best in your ministry as a priest of the Most High God. I am wounded and confused. I keep in touch with many Catholic friends and read our local Catholic newspapers and unfortunately still am privy to stories of those priests who have left or caused scandal. Sadly it continues. I know there are good and true apostles of our Lord and I will continue to pray for more. God bless you!

BOOK REVIEW: Love is Always

LOVE IS ALWAYS by Michael Miles is a book about a Catholic priest who marries a woman and then seeks to continue his ministry as a priest. While progressives might look upon the story as a challenge to Rome, it is actually an occasion for shame for those involved. Fr. Miles sidesteps as unloving and intolerant those who would criticize his actions. However, what he does is worthy of real rebuke and the publication of his scandal is evidence of his lack of repentance.

He violates his promise of celibacy, made to the bishop, but also by extension to the Church and almighty God.

He made both a priest friend and his bishop into accomplices in his ecclesiastical crime and seriously sinful matter.

While Archbishop Hunthausen was implicated by his toleration of a potential act of schism from the Holy See; his replacement, Bishop Curtiss, erred by his passivity in allowing the disobedient priest to remain in the parish and pretend, poorly it should be added, not to be a priest. It was a sham, pure and simple.

Since he was barred from marriage by his vocation, his bond with Joan was counterfeit, subjecting them both to a situation of sinful cohabitation and fornication. He risked damning, not just himself, but the person he claimed to love.

He sought to hide his transgression from the eyes of Rome, implying of course that the universal Church had no say over him or the enforcement of discipline.

He ingratiated himself and his family upon a parish and the pastoral council, leading to hostility between parishioners and Church authorities; threatening the Catholicity and the souls of the laity.

He reveals himself to be the friend of dissenters. It should be no surprise that he questions Church authority to impose discipline on other matters. He fails to respect celibacy as a special love (all its own), but further, repudiates the teachings against artificial contraception. I would not be surprised if he rejected the view that homosexual attraction as a sexual disorientation, too.

One good thing about the book is that it allows Fr. Miles to burn his bridges behind him. Even if the Church should one day relax the discipline regarding priestly celibacy— such renegades and heretics will never be allowed to function as priests again.

A false compassion and romanticism allowed something to happen that never should have started. Many priests who leave for a woman often get divorced; a sign that one broken promise often leads to others. LOVE IS ALWAYS, not simply until something that looks better comes along.

Sin and evil does not always wear a scary mask. Fornication and rebellion against the Church might be disguised as tenderness and freedom; but, it remains a whirlpool that threatens to draw us into the darkness. Feelings are important, but should never take precedence over human integrity, the value of obedience, and the imposition of the Gospel as proclaimed by the teaching authority of the Church.

When I wrote this book review back in February of 2006, there was an immediate negative reaction.  I was attacked personally:  “WOW! This reviewer is obviously angry about something. Jealous? Hiding something? It has been about 20 years since I read LOVE IS ALWAYS, but I remember it as a wonderfully, heartwarming love story between a man and a woman, and the struggle he had with his church and the vows he took as a priest. The author and his wife were friends of one of my coworkers and I met him and had him sign my copy of the book. Granted, I am not Catholic, so I have a very difficult time understanding why the Roman Catholic church cannot enter the 21st century and allow its priests and nuns to marry. Maybe there would be more young men and women interested in serving the Catholic church if they were allowed to get married? And, maybe there would be less of a problem with priests sexually abusing children if they could come to terms with their own sexuality?”

Am I Angry? Maybe, but definitely upset…why? It has nothing to do with jealousy because I find the man reprehensible. I can appreciate falling in love, but promises are made to be kept. If the priest cannot keep his, then how can we expect our married laity to keep theirs? Adultery is the price we pay and it is a terrible sin. Most priests in the West are celibate, and despite the protestations of malcontents, we are so by choice and by obedience. Spiritually married to the Church, the priest must be a man of truth if he is to preach and witness to the one who is the Way and the Truth and the Life. We all have challenges and crosses to bear. Every vocation and direction in life is an opening of certain doors and the closing of others. This is as it should be.

I love the Church. It upsets me when priests in particular think they can substitute their own notions and practices for Church teachings and fidelity. It upsets me when priests give scandal to the faith and to their vocations by their disobedience and deceit. It upsets me when priests commit serious sexual sins and then urge others to follow them in their corruption.

The fact that such things do not bother certain permissive critics, or that they would mock a priest who tries to be faithful, says volumes about their own beleaguered faith and impoverished character.

But maybe I am too harsh? The critic here admits that she is not Catholic, and yet she presumes to understand how serious a matter this is regarding a priest. The Church teaches that a priest who attempts marriage (without laicization) is not truly married. That means, no matter how affectionate and loving, his relations with a woman would all constitute a matter of fornication, ranked as a mortal sin. As a priest, he cannot pretend in conscience that he does not know Catholic teaching. How can a man say he loves a woman and then to be so selfish as to damn her with himself in the eyes of God and the teaching Church? Sometimes “real” love means letting go of someone…for his or her sake…and for our own sake and the promises we are bound to keep.

Just as married couples make a promise to each other and to God, so too does the priest in embracing celibacy. He vows that this is the particular way that he will love others. His single-hearted love for God flows over into his love and service of God’s people. He surrenders genital love to be a special sign of contradiction for the kingdom…a path praised by St. Paul.

The critic asks, “Maybe there would be more young men and women interested in serving the Catholic Church if they were allowed to get married?”

There might be a few, but we already have thousands of married deacons among our ordained clergy. A married clergy has not resolved shortages of men seeking vocations in the Episcopal and Lutheran churches. Indeed, some of the Methodist seminaries are predominately female. No, the problem is not sex and marriage but faith and courage. God will give the gift of celibacy to those whom he truly calls to the priesthood and religious life in the West. It should be noted that over half of the priests who left ministry to get married are now divorced and in second or third marriages. Once you break a solemn promise to God, it is easier to do it again and again. Currently we are reaping a vocations increase from young men from traditional families. I suspect the future of the Church and the priesthood is looking up. There will be no wide scale relaxation of the discipline of celibacy.

In any case, what upsets me here is not the prospect of married clergy, and we have them in our deacons and in Eastern rite clergy and priests ordained from the Episcopal and Lutheran confessions into the Catholic Church. No, what upsets me is the breaking of promises, lying and the corruption of others.

Finally, the critic asks, “And, maybe there would be less of a problem with priests sexually abusing children if they could come to terms with their own sexuality?”

Certainly priests should come to terms with their sexuality, and do so before taking their vows; however, one can be a celibate and chaste sexual being, without recourse to marriage and sexual congress. What you imply is the fallacy that unless men or women are married, they are necessarily incomplete and unfulfilled. This is not the case. Consecrated celibacy is a wonderful expression of love, witnessed by both our Lord, Jesus Christ, and St. Paul. Catholic clergy who fall are often in the news because our message seems so high and demanding. But, while others may not have so far to fall, and thus do not always make the news, married ministers have their own share of scandals. An evangelical in the news some time back who resigned over gay acts is a case in point. As for child molestation, the terrible truth is that most cases are incestuous and happen in families. A married priesthood might have made the problem far worse, although perhaps less reported.

Despite a few rascals, most priests are good and holy men. They are faithful to their promises, despite the cost.

That is what the priest in the book could not do and so he was a failure and a disgrace. The story might seem romantic and tender. But beyond the subjective elements, it is a terrible tragedy. I am sorry that the critics were unable to see this side of the story and felt compelled to attack me.

Why would you such a critic attempt to psychologize me, the reviewer? Does she know me and my priesthood? I just celebrated 25 years as a priest, and I would not change a thing about the demands of this vocation.