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Rose, on February 19, 2019 at 5:40 am said:

Can a grandparent baptize their grandchildren if their parents won’t get them baptize. Can you baptize them without the parents knowing about it.

FATHER JOE: There is supposed to be some assurance that a child will be raised in the faith for a priest to offer baptism. We are not to violate parental rights. Do upset grandparents sometimes baptize children in kitchen sinks? Probably so, but the priest is not part of that.
Lauren, on February 19, 2019 at 3:06 am said:

That was a gentle and kind answer to Luke. You are good to try to bring peace to his heart. God Bless you Fr Joe.
Luke, on February 19, 2019 at 1:39 am said:

Thanks Father!! I really appreciate your time, spiritual direction, and convenience! You are the man!!!!
johnflores9009, on February 19, 2019 at 1:35 am said:

Father: Ever hear of free will? Or separation of Church and State? Priests are often very admirable people, but when I hear any political bullxxxt from priests, I am very turned off and won’t go back to that church. I am against abortion, but realize it is the woman’s choice. And I will remain Catholic the rest of my life. Unless gays priests are allowed. Which would be apocryphal. Satan’s happiest day.

FATHER JOE:

Freedom is not capricious or absolute. Human freedom must be rooted in what is good and it must also respect the rights of others. The child in the womb may not have a voice, even to cry aloud, but he or she still has rights as a person. A woman no more has a right to destroy her child then I would have to murder you.

True freedom is founded upon right reasoning and the human will. You can choose to act or not to act. You are thus culpable or responsible for the actions you deliberately perform. Our moral character and identity is formed by our decisions. We can opt to be a good, moral, just and charitable persons or we can make ourselves into something else. Obedience to God and his laws insures a freedom that matures in truth and virtue. The proper operation of human freedom is best illustrated by the Beatitudes. The disordered use of freedom will ironically bring moral and spiritual bondage. It damages us and brings harm to others. While there are neutral choices, many of the choices of our day have us hinged between good (the proper use of freedom) and evil (the abuse of freedom).

Look at the universal catechism:

[CCC 1740] Threats to freedom. The exercise of freedom does not imply a right to say or do everything. It is false to maintain that man, “the subject of this freedom,” is “an individual who is fully self-sufficient and whose finality is the satisfaction of his own interests in the enjoyment of earthly goods.” Moreover, the economic, social, political, and cultural conditions that are needed for a just exercise of freedom are too often disregarded or violated. Such situations of blindness and injustice injure the moral life and involve the strong as well as the weak in the temptation to sin against charity. By deviating from the moral law man violates his own freedom, becomes imprisoned within himself, disrupts neighborly fellowship, and rebels against divine truth.

Your choice not to go back to church is your use of freedom in opting out of the real worship of almighty God. The only one you really harm is yourself. If you believe that a woman has the right to destroy her child then in fact you are not against abortion— you just do not want to get your own hands dirty. However, both the active enablers and those passive on the issue have blood on their hands. Remember that our freedom makes possible sins both of commission and omission. The Gospel includes both the Spiritual Works of Mercy and the Corporal. The Church must be a player in the public forum and a political voice on issues if not candidates; otherwise, the Church would betray the Gospel. Catholicism is not lived simply between the walls of churches. The separation of church and state is a prohibition against a national religion. It does not mean that Christians must deny their values in the public sector. Such would violate religious liberty. Neither does it mean a rejection of the commandments or natural law. Many of the same voices for abortion are also espousing same-sex unions. However, you seem to regard that topic as demonic. It seems to me that you are somewhat inconsistent.

As for priests, I am not sure I trust all the numbers being thrown around about gay clergy. My main concern is that priests should keep their promises. Men who are called to celebrate the sacrifice of Christ at our altars have pledged a celibate love. It is a love that surrenders itself in love to God and neighbor. God bless!
Luke, on February 19, 2019 at 1:26 am said:

I’m not sure who blocked it. It looked like normal construction barricade blockers but it did not say road closed or anything. I’m just stuck on whether I need to go to confession or not and if it was grave. I have scrupulosity and part of my therapy is to not compulsively go to confession unless I’m 100% sure I need to….I’m just really stuck 😦

FATHER JOE: I suspect it was not grave. You were not even driving. Just make an act of contrition and maybe mention it the next time you go to Confession. No need to rush. I do not think God will condemn you for wanting to go fishing. Be at peace about it.
Luke, on February 18, 2019 at 10:11 pm said:

Hey father I have a question. Me and this other person went fishing and in order to get to this spot we would have to take a road that was blocked off because it was icy. I didn’t want to go around the blockers but we had 4WD and I guess it just happened. I was not driving. The place we were fishing was perfectly fine but the road to get there was blocked. Was this a grave sin? Thanks!

FATHER JOE: I guess it would depend upon who blocked it. Was it illegal? We are obliged to follow just laws. I suspect it was not a “grave” sin.
Lemoine, on February 18, 2019 at 7:54 pm said:

I am in the same situation. I am 82, the eldest of 9 living siblings and vocal about supporting Pro-Life candidates. Two of my brothers are strong practicing Catholics and they try to shut me down when I speak in favor of voting Pro-Life. I fault the Democratic national platform and urge them to work towards changing the party’s pro-choice stance. I am being political because the Democrats left me; they closed the door on Catholic and Evangelicals. We have a private sibling FB page which they prefer I not post anything political. Rather than create a family feud I opted out of the FB page. I find it impossible to separate this issue from politics, its atrocious what the left is doing…..and it isn’t far left any longer!

FATHER JOE: Many of the most liberal voices in the Democratic Party are Catholics who dissent against our moral laws. When you speak of “Catholics and Evangelicals” you mean Christians who believe in traditional values as with the nature of marriage and the sanctity of life. I agree with you that the situation is atrocious. I have also challenged friends, not necessarily to leave the party, but to do all they can to change it. Democrats were traditionally on the side of the working man and those persons most vulnerable and in need. There is no one more vulnerable than a baby. We need voices to call them back to their center. Issues such as human life should not be seen as strictly political or religious— they pertain to basic human rights and the most sacred of these is life. Your family knows where you stand, Facebook or no Facebook. It is amazing how much the world has changed during our lifetimes, and much not for the better. I will keep you in prayer. God bless you! Stay strong!
Albert r Salanitri, on February 18, 2019 at 7:26 pm said:

Thank you father have a blessed day. As always I appreciate your time and wisdom.

God bless,
Albert
Heather Sanchez, on February 18, 2019 at 7:14 pm said:

Why does God say he will shorten time otherwise his few elect would even be decided? What is the great deception? What could deceive all of us?

FATHER JOE:

“And if those days had not been shortened, no one would be saved; but for the sake of the elect they will be shortened” (Matthew 24:22).

God says so because he is compassionate and merciful to his children. Jesus implies that the tribulation with be shortened for the faithful elect. This will save them and enable them to continue to spread Christ’s saving Good News. The elect here are understood as the Jews who had accepted Christ as the consummation of the covenant.

What is the great deception? It is what it has always been, the lies of those who oppose Christ. Indeed, we can speak here of the antichrist(s) who lead people astray. Along with this there is a spiritual numbness permitted by God where even basic truths are no longer acknowledged, i.e. the personhood and right to life of the unborn child, the value of marriage as a covenant between men and women, etc. Those without the light of grace will not be able to see through the darkness.

“And then the lawless one will be revealed, whom the Lord [Jesus] will kill with the breath of his mouth and render powerless by the manifestation of his coming, the one whose coming springs from the power of Satan in every mighty deed and in signs and wonders that lie, and in every wicked deceit for those who are perishing because they have not accepted the love of truth so that they may be saved. Therefore, God is sending them a deceiving power so that they may believe the lie, that all who have not believed the truth but have approved wrongdoing may be condemned” (2 Thessalonians 2:8-12).
Albert r Salanitri, on February 18, 2019 at 4:20 pm said:

Political choices

Dear father Joe,
My brother and I are on polar opposite sides of the political spectrum. I am catholic pro life and in my best possible discernment through prayer and fasting in the past to me the single most important issue is voting for the pro life candidate. It’s non negotiable for me , it’s not my brother’s top priority. Am I where God wants me to be o. This issue or am I missing a bigger picture?
Thanks and god bless you

Albert

FATHER JOE: While generally there are other issues, if a person is stripped of his or her right to life, at least for that person there are no more issues. Speaking for myself, I could not support those who would enable or make possible the torture and murder of children… in or out of the womb. I suspect you are where God wants you on this matter. If we compromise on this issue then everything is up for grabs.
glo, on February 18, 2019 at 2:13 pm said:

Father in your response to laicised priest you wrote confusion I think you meant confession.
Peace. God bless you.

FATHER JOE: Thanks… I fixed it. Not sure that I wrote the wrong word or if the spell-check automatically changed it.
Sarah, on February 17, 2019 at 2:04 pm said:

Hi Fr Joe,
When a priest, bishop, or cardinal is ‘laicized’, is he still a priest but just stripped of his ability to function as such? The priest that married my husband and I was laicized a few years ago after a scandal. “You are a priest forever” comes to mind. I have not seen him for many years, but I will be seeing him next month at a reunion. It will be strange not to call him ‘Father’. There is a lot of sadness, confusion, hurt, disappointment, and regret that I feel over the love and trust I felt for him as a priest. I know, priests are human too, but it’s like a doctor who intentionally poisons a patient instead of giving medicine. It’s hard to reconcile.
I’m guessing that all sacraments he performed before being laicized are valid. Is a laicized priest still bound by the seal of confession not to disclose anything he heard prior to being laicized? (Or, anything you confided in him privately). Is there anything keeping a laicized priest from making public what he heard in past confessions?
As far as McCarrick, is laicizing him enough of a ‘punishment’ considering the heinous crimes he committed? Would he be allowed to live as a free person in the world, living amoung communities of people without any supervision?
I am praying for all victims and families who were traumatized in past offenses, and I’m also prying for the MANY good and holy priests, religious, and laity to rise up over all the ashes and shine with God’s love and goodness.
Thank you Fr Joe.
Peace.

FATHER JOE:

The role of cardinal or papal elector is a man-made position. If a man is stripped of the Cardinal’s hat then he is no longer a cardinal. That honor is removed. However, the vocation to the priesthood and to the episcopacy is the reception of the sacrament of holy orders. It configures a man to Christ the high priest and leaves an indelible mark upon the soul. When a cleric is laicized he remains a bishop or priest but he no longer has the faculties or permission to function. He cannot hear confessions. He cannot celebrate the Mass. He may no longer dress like a priest or bishop. He forfeits the right to be called Father, or Your Eminence, or Your Excellency. He is reduced functionally to the lay state.

Certain priests seek laicization, particularly when they want to get married in the Church. However, laicization alone does not free a bishop or priest from his vows. He must still be obedient and unless released by proper authority, must also remain celibate and cannot marry. Often laicized priests are also released from their celibacy promise so that they can marry.

Yes, all the sacraments previously celebrated or witnessed (marriage) by the priest remain lawful and valid after a priest is laicized. Yes, the seal of confession binds the man forever. Violation would constitute serious sin and open him up to excommunication. The seal also applies to lay people, as with translators for the sacrament.

McCarrick is still under holy obedience and he has been ordered to spend what remains of his life in prayer and penance within a monastic environment. If he opted to ignore this command, the Church would have no legal recourse. Just as with other abusive clergy, they can disappear from the radar as we have no ecclesial police force. We must all abide by the laws of the nations where we find ourselves.
Lemoine, on February 17, 2019 at 1:35 pm said:

Apparently it was wine and not the consecrated precious blood of Jesus Christ. Why would it be in a cruet if it was clear consecrated?

FATHER JOE: Thank you for catching this. I quickly read it as the precious blood being poured from the cup into the cruet at the end of Mass. There is still some confusion because while the current rubrics stipulate than only chalices should be used for the consecration of the wine, the practice before 2012 was that a flagon or cruet might sometimes be used, to be poured into cups for the people’s reception at communion time. I have revised my response. Again thank you for catching my error. I was trying to write quick responses between Masses this morning. God bless!
Maureen, on February 15, 2019 at 9:12 pm said:

Dear Fr. Joe,

I asked a substitute priest filling in at a Catholic Hospital Chapel what I should do with the 1/3 cup of wine in the cruet he left after Mass. He told me to put it back in the wine bottle. I thought this odd since our regular priest pours it in the Chalice to drink or the EM administering the precious blood. Thank you for clarifying in your response.

Maureen

FATHER JOE:

[REVISED RESPONSE]

I have been made aware that I may have misread your comment. You write “1/3 cup of wine in the cruet” and I read it quickly as pouring from the “cup” or chalice back into the bottle. Further, many of us only use water for the purification while others use the unconsecrated wine. I guess I was further perplexed because you said the other priest sometimes has you drink the wine from the cruet.

There is further confusion with the comment because some priests still wrongly consecrate both from the chalice and a cruet to pour into other chalices used by communicants. Was the cruet left on the altar during the consecration or was it on a side credence table? If it were on a side table then the wine is not consecrated and can lawfully be poured back into the wine bottle. If it were on the altar then it probably should have been consumed.

While priests usually intend to consecrate only what is on the corporal, I know priests and bishops who “intend” to consecrate any and all of the sacred elements on the altar. In any case, the confusion can breed scandal. Current rules stipulate that only communion cups or chalices with wine can be used for consecration… no cruets or flagons.
Denny, on February 15, 2019 at 2:16 pm said:

I have begun reading the Bible using a daily guide that will complete the reading in one year. The guide began for me with a reading from Leviticus. I was struck by the details and specificity of the recounting of Moses receiving direction from God on Mt. Sinai such as detailing the color of cloths to be used to cover an offering table.

This lead me to wonder how the Bible readings have been written. Surely Moses did not recall all of those details. So it would seem that over time versions of the Bible have expanded the explanations using contemporary interpretations and language to articulate the story.

How much of what we read in Levitiicus, for example, can be read as truly accurate of what Moses was told by God? I accept it. It’s just my curiosity about it.

Thank you.

FATHER JOE: There is no way to know whether certain accidentals or details are absolutely accurate. Often colors, numbers, etc. have a symbolic meaning in the telling that might be lost upon the average reader. The Bible uses many forms of literature… history, poetry, speeches, myths, parables, etc. to give us the inspired revelation and truth of God. Given the absence of books, the value of memory in days gone by was also prized very highly, perhaps more so than today. Those things that were written were cherished and passed down within the believing community. These writings became priceless and were regularly copied by scribes.
Lauren, on February 14, 2019 at 3:43 am said:

Hi Fr. Joe,

Next month, I am traveling to Haiti as part of a medical mission team. We will be in some remote areas of the country at times and also working in a medical clinic in a small village.

I do not remember the last time I missed Mass, but on this trip, I’ve been told that it is very unlikely for me to access a Catholic Church, especially given the area that we will be working. Any travel we do within the country needs to be in groups with security and an interpreter present. And, even going a short distance can take a lot of time due to the poor road conditions.

I usually attend Mass 2-3 times during the week as well, so I am trying to prepare myself for the absense of receiving Communion while I’m away. I actually have a little anxiety over facing this situation. AND, I am also trying to come to terms with not being able to attend Mass on Sunday.

First, any thoughts to help me get through these couple weeks? A friend suggested i offer it as a sacrifice and someone else suggested that maybe we would be able to bring the Eucharist in a pix for this of us who are Catholic?

Then I am wondering if missing Mass under these circumstances would be considered a venial or mortal sin, and if I should avoid receiving Communion anyways. Any light you can shed in this would be greatly appreciated.

Please pray for Haiti as the country is currently in a state of civil unrest. And, if I could ask, please pray for the safety of our medical team as we travel there in mid March.

Thank you!

FATHER JOE:

Haiti is a heavily Catholic country (80%). Ordinarily this would mean easy access to a church for Mass, most likely offered in French. Not knowing where you are going, I cannot speak about the “difficult terrain.” I have friends who have done ministry outreach there and they were able to practice their faith. The difficulty you face is probably that the Medical Mission is either representative of another denomination or that the practice of faith is not a serious consideration. It is accurate that you should travel in groups and not alone.

You cannot take the Eucharist in a pyx for such an extended period because of the danger of desecration. If you truly cannot participate at Sunday Mass, take a missal so that you can follow the readings of the day. God does not demand the impossible and he understands the difficulties we face. Friends who worked in Saudi Arabia (where the Christian faith is essentially illegal) offered the rosary in secret but could not attend Mass. The situation is quite different in Haiti.

As for civil unrest in Haiti, such is pretty much always the case, albeit with escalations. It is one of the poorest nations on the planet.
Egarcia, on February 12, 2019 at 10:59 pm said:

What exactly is a sin? Is it something that displeases God? Is not attending mass a sin? Saying bad words? Getting mad? Drinking alcohol? Or is it just breaking one of the Ten Commandments?

FATHER JOE:

Sin is a deliberate immoral act that violates the laws of God and his Church.

Yes, sin always displeases God to whom we owe fidelity and obedience.

Yes, the willful missing of Sunday Mass is a sin that violates a precept of the Church and the manner in which we keep the commandment to observe the Lord’s Day.

Yes, we can sin by words of blasphemy against God and words of vulgarity which diminish civility and human dignity.

Yes, while it is not a sin to become upset or in justice to know righteous indignation, unbridled hatred and anger (rage) is indeed a sin.

Yes, while the fruits of the earth are good, we can sin by excess and drunkenness in regard to alcohol.

Yes, we can sin by the violation of the Ten Commandments in that we have moral obligations both to love God and our neighbor.

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