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Priestly Celibacy: The Issue of Loneliness

A priest’s celibacy faces challenges on many fronts. The most obvious is the issue of sexual attraction and yet that may not prove as great a temptation as that posed by loneliness. Rectories with multiple priests in the past are today frequently the home of only one. Priests become accustomed to a definite “aloneness” but there are times when his separation from most other men and his solitary life might truly be trying. Women are among the first to give comfort and support. But here is the danger. Even if no sexual indiscretion is ever committed, a priest could develop a friendship with a secretary, catechist or housekeeper that might be somewhat analogous to a husband-wife relationship. This can catch the man unawares. Then when the time comes for a transfer, he finds that there is a bond that holds him. The Church is well aware of such possibilities and so priests are generally reassigned every six to twelve years. He really has no home except the Church. It is vital that he knows this. Yes, even if he has living parents and brothers and sisters; he belongs first to the Church. My mother cried on my ordination day when my father spoke about this to her. She said, “He will always be mine!” Yes, she is right, to a degree, because a man’s mother and the Blessed Virgin Mary are the two closest women to a celibate priest. But there need be no contradiction; their motherhood is symbolic or expressive of Mother Church to which he belongs.

It is said that a priest who gets into trouble is a priest who has neglected his prayers. I would add to this the lack of continuing study and theological reflection. If there is a hole in his heart it is likely that a woman might begin to fill it. The only safeguard is to avoid a vacuum and to fill the space with the presence of God. Such a man will know that he is never really alone. The Lord is desirous of an intimate relation with his priests, so that he might satisfy as their treasure and sole passion.

Priestly Celibacy: Dealing with Tough Questions

1. Do all relationships between men and women have to lead to sexual intimacy and physical expression? If so, would this not compel men and women who do not desire such developments to select friends and co-workers of the opposite sex who are unattractive and sexually repellant to them?

2. Not desiring sexual congress, can and should one cultivate a mindset where gender distinctions are extracted or ignored in social interaction? Can the celibate honestly look upon the female segment of the world through the eyes of a spiritualized non-corporeal charity? Would not our theology of the body highlight such a posturing attitude as a fictional absurdity? Does this not reflect a prejudice toward a sexless, spiritualized preoccupation over the physical which acknowledges Eros? Would it not be better to recognize ourselves and others as sexual-embodied-beings?

I believe the first question exposes a fiction; the second one finds its answer in degree. Referencing these questions, our society’s wresting with these queries is illuminated by how we treat or mistreat children, today. Our society has so emphasized sexual interaction that we forcibly impose an adult archetype even upon small children. Little girls are dressed in sexy or provocative clothes. Certain responsible parents complain that they cannot find modest age-appropriate clothing for their daughters. Movies are also illustrative of the infection of Eros. Children are pictured as sexually active and/or develop romantic liaisons in elementary school. Grammar school boys and girls date and share passionate kisses. This is wrong. Everything around us is heavily sexualized, way beyond the necessary strictures of nature. This abandon has given us a voyeuristic world where everything and anything goes. While the Church is faulted for the scandals, it is popular culture that has given us a pedophile attitude that preys upon the innocent. The sexual appetites are so thoroughly expanded with abandon that they neither respect age nor the demarcations of gender. Everything that brought God’s judgment down upon Sodom and Gomorrah is present in full measure in our society. It is into this confusion that the Church would ask men and women to be chaste and moral. It is in this world that the celibate priest must find his way and fulfill his work.

Priestly Celibacy: Love Means Not Crossing the Line

Here is the root cause for my upset or anger when priests cross the boundary lines with women and then fault the Church for their trespass. The famous Father Cutie episode in Florida is a case in point. When his affair was exposed, he defected to the Episcopalian church and attempted marriage with a divorcee. Evidently their sins or broken promises, his to priesthood and hers to marriage, did not trouble him enough to check his wrongdoing. The secular world took his side regardless of fornication and adultery. If a man had left his loving wife for another woman; there might have been some recrimination. But our society dismisses marriage vows between a priest and his Church. It chronicles a terrible double standard. I would insist that we must all play by the same rules. Good morality and a properly formed conscience must always be exhibited by the Catholic man in his relations with females. There should be no wrongful encouragement, no selfish seduction, no premeditated entrapment, and no empty promises. No relationship or intimacy should be fostered that cannot rightly be satisfied. The principle of “no harm” applies to all relationships, but especially to interactions between priests and the People of God. A priest is ordained to save souls, not to become an accomplice in damning them. A man who truly loves a woman should be willing to preserve her virtue and to safeguard the presence of saving grace. Anything less or different is not just an expression of weakness but of the demonic. A man, priest or not, cannot say with sincerity, “I love you,” to a woman while blackening her soul and possibly casting her into hell.

Men and Especially Women Need Celibate Priests

Pious women delight in the presence of a priest. He signifies in his preaching, rituals and person something of the transcendent for which they long. He is the spiritual father figure who assists them to see over the fences and hedges of lives weighted heavily toward the earthly and immediate chores of survival. Cleaning dippers, feeding families, caring for a home, and working outside the home fills the hours. It is all good but there is a yearning for something more that is satisfied by religion. The priest is the porter for this other world. He is the sentinel for Christ’s kingdom breaking into our world. As a light-bearer, he reflects in his priestly way, Jesus who is the Light of the World. Women were at the Cross and at the empty tomb. Their religion or faith has little to do with abstraction; rather it is an enfleshed encounter with a person. That was true two thousand years ago and it is still true today. The celibate priest, as St. Paul relates of himself, satisfies what is lacking in the oblation of Christ for his people. He is the human medium to make present the saving person and activity of Christ.

Women are largely regarded and treated by men as sexual creatures. While some might invite or find a certain appeal to this role, it can alternately bring about both an empowerment and an intense vulnerability. Men want to please women and win their favor. Unfortunately, some men want much more and may not take no for an answer. The priest is the one man who does not regard women as merely sexual objects. He encourages and looks to their spiritual side. Mentoring women as a spiritual director, I have heard numerous times from them, “I wish I could pray with my husband as I can pray with you.” It is here that the priest must proceed carefully. The woman may feel that here is one man about whom she need not be afraid. She sees in him one to whom she can open her heart and soul. She can be pretty or ugly with him. She can be honest. While not erotic or sexually aroused, his heart is responsive to her. Women often hold priests in high regard and possibly even with infatuation. Men often want women for their bodies. The priest is a man who wants to save their souls. His interest in men and women is the same— that they might believe and belong to Christ.

Priestly Celibacy: Men & Women are Wired Differently

We know that the brains of men and women are wired differently. Men have more cerebral mass and synapses connecting cells in a particular section of the brain. The ratios of white and gray matter, as well as the density of nerve cells differ. Women have more developed neuropils (the space between cells) and a larger corpus collosum. The neuropils are composed of synapses, dendrites and axons. Such allows better communication between neurons. The more developed corpus collosum allows women a faster data transfer rate between the right and left hemispheres. The deeper limbic system in females allows them to be more in touch and in sync with their feelings than men. This brings us to my real concern here, what does this all mean in the world outside of our heads?

While the person in the Christian estimation is more than thinking meat, and has an immortal soul, our physical attributes impact upon how we perceive and interact with one another. Men and women are complementing one another but they are physically different. This difference also exists in how our minds work.

Men’s brains are specialized, with various parts devoted to specific tasks while women’s brains tend to use both hemispheres and diffuse the mental work throughout the whole brain. Women are highly effective at communicating with one another. They process information quickly and talk faster than men. Women tend toward the creative while men want to fix things. Men tend to process information slower, something that is evidenced in their more paced speech. It is no wonder that there is certain confusion between men and women. Women can literally talk too quickly for men to follow. While it may be that men think deeper, they can easily get lost in thought. How many times have we heard a woman angrily ask a man, “Are you listening to me?” Women frequently complain about the man’s general confusion or the dull look on his face. Women multitask while men are intensely linear, doing one thing at a time, even if it takes longer.

Looking at the home, the woman might shout for her husband to help her and get angry with his slow response. But I have heard men say, in all honesty, that they did not know where to begin? Give him one thing and he will do it well. Give him a list of things to do and he will do them one after the other until completed. Give him a series to do simultaneously and he will look at you like you are crazy.

The female mental diffusion is complemented in the male where it can be tightly focused. Men can be largely engrossed in athleticism and sexual themes; but they are also intensely interested in the ultimate questions of truth and meaning. Women may be curious or follow this philosophical lead; but they are more likely to dismiss it with chatter about the price of eggs and baby’s new tooth. Women are incredibly bonded to the earth and everyday details. Yes, there are exceptions, as well as culturally conditioned stereotypes. While women are very hormonal, they are about more than their emotions. They want to make sense of life’s complexities. Men are good about this if they are not distracted, and they are easily distracted, particularly by sexual themes. The celibate priest can provide the sage’s illumination in a remarkable way. Women long for such leadership and are frequently more religious or devout than men. Women clergy in Protestant churches, like female help in Catholic ones, treat their work much like the care of a home. They balance multiple jobs at one time and there is a harried busy-ness. They also prize creativity, sometimes at the cost of routine or tradition. Compared to men, there are few female philosophers; but there are millions upon millions of faithful and believing women. You would think that Catholic women would be upset that only men can be priests; but the vast majority is content with a male-only priesthood. They recognize that he can give them something that maybe a woman could not.

Priestly Celibacy: What is a Priest? What is He Not?

The priest is many things. He is physician, judge, teacher, servant and father. His celibacy amplifies all these models of the priesthood and more. His single-hearted love acts as a catalyst, focusing and intensifying his efforts as a priest of God. He is Jesus feeding the multitude, healing the sick and chasing the money-changers out of the temple at the end of a whip. His compassion never compromises upon the truth. He belongs wholly to Christ and to his Church. He is one with the Good Shepherd, ready and willing to lay down his life to protect his lambs against the robber and the wolf. He is the champion of the poor, the oppressed, the marginalized— indeed, on behalf of all who are weak, vulnerable and voiceless.

The celibate priest is not caught up with the obligations of family life. Rather, in addition to his ministry, he pursues long hours of study and prayer. It is expected that he exerts an intense mental life, seeking always to understand so that he might be a vessel for truth and meaning. People want answers. They are yearning for meaning. Many have come to embrace chaos, thinking that there is no God and that creation is a cosmic accident. Priests let them know that God is real and that he cares. Repeatedly he reminds a dubious world of three important themes: freedom, love and evil. Creation, salvation history, and our own struggles can be understood in the context of these three factors. God freely created us out of love. Man freely rebelled, rejecting God’s love and falling into bondage to evil. God promised redemption and lovingly called us back to fidelity. Love was born in human flesh with Jesus Christ. God did not have to save us but he freely entered the human family. Our Lord freely embraced the Cross and died for us. He had every reason to hate us. We betrayed him. We murdered him with our sins. He loved us so much that he forgave us and offered us a share in his life. Now we are called to freely love him in return, taking up our crosses and following him. We were evil and still in our sins. But he grants us mercy and healing. Our priests perpetuate the love of Christ, a love that faces down evil, brings forgiveness, and renders a share in eternal life. Over and over again, we see these three themes played out.

Priestly Celibacy: The Devil Hates Priests

The devil and his minions hate priests. Satan mocks him. “You’re not a real man— where’s your woman? You have nothing that gives other men solace. There is no woman who loves you. You have no children to carry forward your name and legacy. The pews are empty. Your sacrifices were all for nothing. You are abandoned. You are a bad priest. You have wasted your life. Sermon after sermon you give, but nobody cares. Just get Mass over quickly so we can watch the football game. Your morality is a joke. No one listens to you. You hate homosexuals and yet you’re probably a closet one yourself. No one trusts you with their kids. You might be one of THOSE priests. Even your bishop does not trust you; all contracts must be reviewed and every decision must pass muster with the legal department. Face it, you are nothing. You are told what to do like a puppet on a string; where is your manhood? You are everyone’s lackey. Make waves and we will report you to the bishop. You’re told you can’t talk about certain issues. Don’t make trouble! Don’t you dare speak against contraception or gays or abortion! If I come up the aisle with a pitchfork in hand and wearing the skulls of dead babies around my neck, don’t you dare refuse me communion. Ah, here is the blasphemy. You cannot even protect that which you hold most dear, the so-called Blessed Sacrament. You are pathetic, weak and passive. You are all dress up and talk. And you call yourself a priest of God?” As long as there is hope, the priest will prevail. But if he despairs, then all is lost.

Priestly Celibacy: The Priest as MAN of God

Although he is celibate, the priest engages men and women in very masculine ways. Anything of the effeminate in his manner compromises his posture and undermines the vitality of his vocation. Because he signifies Christ, the new Adam and most perfect man; the priest must be wholly a man. The pattern of the male apostles and the exclusion of women from holy orders is a further guarantee of this basic quality in the Catholic priesthood. Jesus demonstrates to our over-sexed society that a priest can be very much a man and still remain chaste and celibate. The priest relates to men and women as father and brother. He sees his charges as spiritual children. He acknowledges that we are all adopted sons and daughters of our heavenly Father, brothers and sisters to each other, and kin to Christ. A father will do all he can to protect his family. A big brother will fight for his siblings, especially for the honor of his kid sister. Similarly, the role of father and brother is realized in the many duties of his ministry.

Real men keep their promises. This means that they are prepared to accept responsibility and take charge. They do not run away from obligation and duty. Accepting either praise or blame for their actions, they must be courageous. Cowards have no place in the priesthood. All the virtues, albeit in a masculine manner, should be actualized in priestly life and ministry. The priest is also a unique spiritual soldier. His celibacy resonates with this because an ordinary soldier would not drag his wife and children into battle with him; the priest will contest against the devil until his dying breath. Everyone is caught up in this conflict but it is the priest alone who can call God down from heaven in the Eucharist and make saints out of the damned through his Absolution. Every priest is an exorcist against the presence of the beast that seeks to devour souls. His celibacy along with prayer is his armament against the snares of the enemy. It is because of all this that people should pray for their priests, supporting them in the perilous work they do.

Priestly Celibacy: Women & Encountering Mystery

The priest also encounters women as pastoral subjects. They come to him for the sacraments, devotions, and counsel. It is within these meetings that the priest must have a sincere respect for mystery. I mean here not only the mystery of God and his saving intervention; but also, the mystery that is woman. Female friendships can give him insight into the female heart and mind; however, there are depths that are forever hidden to him which touch the divine. How could it be otherwise, given that women by design can so intimately cooperate with God in the work of creation? Men and women are not the same, despite efforts in our society to treat them interchangeably. Men and women who get married readily realize this. It represents a type of paradox. The more these couples live together, the more they appreciate the quality of mystery that cannot be penetrated. The celibate priest should both respect this mystery and see in it something of his yearning to know God. Priests study and pray as facets of their vocation, and yet, the deeper they understand God and his providence, the more they discover a mystery eluding their grasp. It has been said that God gave mankind two genders so that they might discover something of the divine otherness in each other.

Popes Opposed Slavery against Dissenters

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Medallion from 1787 Wedgwood Anti-slavery Campaign

We often think that dissent from the Holy See and the teaching Church is a new phenomenon. However, just as the land of “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” silences any reference to God in her schools and promotes the mass murder of the unborn in the womb, so too did our land, and even her Catholic citizens, dissent from papal admonitions against slavery. Catholic churchmen held large parcels of land and like their Protestant fellows, maintained the institution of slavery. The Maryland colony first founded as a haven for Catholics would later facilitate in Baltimore Harbor a central commercial trade in slaves. People were bartered as nothing more than animals or property. Personhood was denied. Human rights were trampled upon. The rights of landowners and the “choice” of European stock immigrants were made preferential over the needs and wants of people kidnapped from the African shores.

Slavery as practiced by the Jews or later by Christians in the ancient world did not compare to it. Slaves were taken from conquered peoples and indentured servants would be used well into the colonial period of America. After a period of service, and even restitution, such slaves were freed. However, we are the ones (European colonialism) who invented perpetual racial slavery– a foul business that could be passed on from generation to generation. Families could be separated. Torture and death could be implemented without any care or worry about censure. Great Britain would renounce slavery many years prior to the Civil War (ended 1865) when the issue would be forced in the United States. Here is the irony. If the Revolutionary War had gone the other way, blacks would have known freedom many generations earlier.

  • 1778 – Slavery outlawed in Scotland.
  • 1807 – British slave trade outlawed.
  • 1833 – All British slaves freed.

Reserving ourselves to the Catholic community, it must be admitted that Catholics often catechized and had their slaves baptized. However, the churches would be segregated and later their schools. It is interesting that Cardinal O’Boyle in Washington, DC would order the desegregation of parochial schools in the 1950′s prior to similar efforts by the federal government. But, past injustice must not be excused because of later enlightenment.

Today many of our people and liberal Catholic theologians and bishops argue for abortion, artificial contraception and active homosexuality. They are the spiritual heirs to the Catholic dissenters on the matter of slavery.

Pope Eugene IV ordered that black slaves be freed in the Canary Islands back in 1435. Columbus was not even born yet! He demanded that “these peoples are to be totally and perpetually free” (Sicut Dudum). Slaveholders who refused the order were excommunicated.

Indians from the New World would be brought to the Pope with the absurd question as to whether or not they were human beings. It was hoped that if the Holy Father deemed them subhuman or animals, that this would legitimate the slave trade and the confiscation of their lands.

Pope Paul III (1537) condemned slavery in the New World, saying, “The Indians and all other peoples … who shall hereafter come to the attention of Christians … are not to be deprived of their liberty and their possessions” (Sublimis Deus).  While in regard to the mistreatment of Native Americans, this condemnation of slavery was absolute.  Slavers were rebuked as minions of the devil and rationalizations for slavery denounced as without any value.  Pastorale Officium  imposed automatic excommunication for any who tried to enslave the Indians or take their possessions.

The Holy Office of the Inquisition responded to a question on March 20, 1686 about the practice of enslaving innocent blacks.  The Church rejected such actions and argued that they had to be freed and restitution made for the injustice against them.

The later popes spoke with one voice. Pope Gregory XVI (1839) stipulated that no one should “dare to bother unjustly, despoil of their possessions, or enslave Indians, Blacks, or other such peoples” (In Supremo). He decried the traders for their “sordid gain” and the slave trade as an “inhuman traffic.”  Even the defending of such slave trade was ordered forbidden.

Nevertheless, the Catholic bishops met in Baltimore in 1840 and contended that the Pope was only condemning the slave trade, not domestic slavery in the U.S.  Is there a similarity between the position of the bishops (for which Bishop John England was a major spokesman) in 1840 and the position of certain Churchmen today in excusing U.S. military intervention around the world or pampering pro-abortion Catholic politicians here at home?

Toward the end of the nineteen century, Pope Leo XIII, the great pope who wrote about the dignity and rights of workers, also deplored the remnants of slavery in Africa and parts of South America.

Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas (a Catholic and former seminarian) argues from natural law that the situation of slavery in America and abortion today are analogous– both strip human beings of personhood, liberty and life.

Where is the prophetic voice? What will future generations, if a culture of life should supplant one of death, think of this generation and her leaders– civil and religious?

This topic is revisited in many ways.  It would also regard how we treat the immigrants.  Some would invite them to work here but deprive them of the benefits given our citizens.  The rise of labor unions and Catholic social teaching responded to the needs and rights of American laborers.  Further, what about the sweat shops where workers are exploited so that we might buy cheaper goods?  Many of the identical concerns attached to slavery are encountered here.

I would direct readers to Fr. Joel Panzer’s excellent book, The Popes and Slavery. Those who would fault the Church on this question would have to further impugn the apostles and Christ.  However, Christianity, while it did not eradicate this social institution, did create a new mindset in its regard.  One had to share the faith with servants and treat them in a manner that would recognize them as brothers and sisters in the Lord.  There are numerous documents from Popes and churchmen, and even in the journal of the much maligned Christopher Columbus, that spoke of a temporary bondage so that civilization and faith might be shared with the pagans. This is not to make excuses for what we know today as repugnant; but the Church and faith is given to us in human history and culture, not purely as something from outside.  Those well-versed in historiography would appreciate what I am trying to say.  The Bible and the Church were not privy to an immediate, complete and definitive Christian Anthropology.  The truth required time and reflection.

It is untrue that the Church was silent on the evils of certain forms of slavery until after the Civil War.  As I said before, American “chattel” or “traditional” slavery would not pass the moral litmus test of the Church.  However, there were other forms of servitude.  Our country also saw the employment of indentured servants.  After the debt was paid or the contract satisfied, the servant was given his freedom.  Such would be a form of “slavery,” would find a parallel with prison chain gangs and prisoners of war.

Slavery under pagan Roman law was brutal and stripped the person of basic rights.  While Christianity did not eradicate the institution, believers were rightfully conflicted and challenged as to how the institution might be maintained.  The treatment of individual slaves necessarily changed and the seed which was the spirit of the Gospel would work toward its eventual abolition. All men were reckoned children of God and brothers and sisters to one another, regardless of social standing or class.  Given St. Paul’s command that slaves should obey their masters, it was argued by many authorities that certain forms of slavery or servitude were in accordance with natural law.  Distinctions were made about voluntary and involuntary servitude.  Immoral acts could not be required of anyone, even a slave.  Temporary versus perpetual slavery was debated and delineated.  Chattel slavery was condemned for treating the human being as an animal and not respecting personhood.  The master was also morally obligated.  He had to clothe, shelter, and feed the slave.  He had to give him a Christian upbringing.  The servant could not be tortured, killed or given inhuman working conditions.  The master could not separate families. I am not saying that everyone followed the rules; but there were rules. Indeed, given that the rules for Christians were so often broken, later moralists rejected the whole notion of slavery as justifiable, either with natural law or with the spirit of the Gospel.  Slavery had to be abolished if people were to have genuine freedom and a sense of self-respect.