Ask a Priest

5,275 Responses

Douglas A Stofko, on June 9, 2023 at 11:27 pm said:

The first Martyr was saint Stephen. He was chosen by the Apostles to distribute food for the followers of the good news. He was stoned following our lord. Every Christian is called to bear witness to Jesus Christ. How many people would do what Saint Stephen did?
Nathan, on June 9, 2023 at 10:12 pm said:

You responded to my question, but was my sin Mortal?

FATHER JOE: How can it be mortal when the matter is not grievous and the will is compromised by mental disease?
Jen Hutchinson, on June 9, 2023 at 3:26 pm said:

Hello Father,

Years ago I remembered a sin from the past and confessed to being flirtatious on one occasion while in a wedding. I am married. I was trying to be better about confessing kind and number. Of course, with more knowledge I might now call it lust, but I did my best at the time. Anyways, the backstory to this situation is that I was in a wedding party and we were taking pictures/poses as a group. One of the groomsmen grabbed my hand during the picture process. I’m not sure if he was leading me to the next pose or what his thoughts were. However, I felt like I enjoyed the attention I was getting from him grabbing my hand. So… when I confessed the sin, I confessed being flirtatious on one occasion. I didn’t think I need to tell the whole story, as I had been asked by priests I prior confessions to say less. I just want to make sure I didn’t invalidate the confession. I tend to run on the scrupulous side of things.

FATHER JOE: You were young and single and enjoyed a man’s attention . . . I would not call that lust or even flirtation. It is simply being human.
Daniel Cornell, on June 9, 2023 at 10:22 am said:

I have a question. I know a woman that keeps insisting that doing yoga for health and mobility reasons. Is it evil even if the Hindu spiritual side has absolutely nothing to do with my reasons for doing yoga? Is it evil and a pagan practice to use yoga for stretching?

FATHER JOE: There is no moral issue with exercise. However, if the Hindu prayers and spirituality is part of the equation then it would be forbidden.
Alicia, on June 7, 2023 at 2:51 am said:

I am a 26 year old female, and I am concerned about my mother. She has always been a conservatively minded person, especially as we live in the United States. Over the past few years, She has become more involved with certain right-wing or Traditionalist organizations and fifures that persistently disparage the Pope, including things that he says or does within his office. For example, he recently added Coptic Martyrs to the Roman Martyrology. I read the newsletter she had seen on the issue, which cited Aquinas and other thinkers to build an argument that this was yet another example of Pope Francis flying in the face of Catholic Tradition. I sent her another article written by Jimmy Akin for National Catholic Register (which is usually the standard around here) explaining how this move, while unusual, was not at all unprecedented. Rather than reading it, she tried to argue with me.

Other practices that make me worried is that, at least since 2020, she began refusing to even go up for the Eucharist unless she could receive on the tongue and from the priest. This normally would be fine by me, but in this case it came in response to Covid measures against receiving on the tongue. She has asked me more than once if I’d seen so-and-so receive Communion when “they really shouldn’t”. I normally try to explain that I don’t think I should be worried about that in the moment.

I don’t know if I’m being a bit of a gripe, but I hope you can help. Thank you.

FATHER JOE:

I have no issue with the Traditional Latin Mass or with the desire of communicants to receive Holy Communion on the tongue. While one might prefer to receive the sacrament from a priest or deacon, as a sign of respect to the minister, the emphasis should remain with the Eucharist. Communion in the hand was normative for almost a thousand years. The Last Supper and the early liturgies were said facing the people. The language was the vernacular of the people. Even one of the first martyrs was a young man, not a priest, by the name of Tarcisius who was killed on his way to bring Holy Communion to other believers in a Roman prison. He is essentially a patron saint for altar servers and extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion.

The one matter that most upsets me is criticism toward the inclusion of the Coptic Martyrs in the Roman Martyrology. There has been tremendous progress toward unity with them and the Western Church. These men had knives placed to their throats and told to reject Christ or die. They chose death. Pope Francis stated, “These martyrs were baptized not only with water and the Spirit, but also in blood, in a blood that is the seed of unity for all followers of Christ.” Any hardness of heart about this speaks against our disposition for grace. Your mother would place her judgment above the Pope and against these men. Many of the traditionalists have sided with the Pope on this one as such an attitude of recrimination is not reflective of a true follower of Jesus Christ. Who is she to do this? What by comparison has she suffered? The universal Church is happy and eager to claim such martyrs as her own.

The attitude of some who disparage the efficacy of the reformed rites and the Mass may constitute blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. That is a damning mortal sin. One might prefer one ritual over another, and for good reasons, but the Lord is present and active in all the sacraments approved by Mother Church. I know you love your mother, but she does not respect your faith or the authority of Pope Francis. Speaking for myself, I would leave her to God’s judgment. Do not despair, she may yet merit purgatory.
Nathan, on June 6, 2023 at 10:46 pm said:

I am struggling with whether or not I committed a mortal sin. Here are the circumstances: I was engaging in an action that I thought may be sinful (it is doubtful whether it was and if it was it was venial – it was a matter of going into a building that I may not have been authorized to go into to help my wife deliver some items [it was her place of employment after hours])) and I started to get feelings of anxiety and guilt about going in the building. I have been wrestling with OCD (scrupulosity specifically) which has manifested in intrusive/unwanted thoughts. In this instance the feelings of anxiety and guilt made me think that I was likely committing a sin by going in without authorization and I began to have intrusive, distressing images come through my mind of me hurting Jesus, i.e. because I thought I was sinning then these images were about this presumed sin adding to His agony in His torture and crucifixion. On some level I knew the thoughts were intrusive OCD, but on another level, because I already felt guilty, I accepted them and on some anxious level assumed that I was really adding to His pain in His Passion. I entered the building twice, the second time deliberately even though I knew I was going to have more of these thoughts/images going in. I continued to help my wife deliver the items. These thoughts greatly disturbed me and made me very uncomfortable as I had no intention or desire to hurt Jesus. To sum it up, I don’t think going into the building was necessarily sinful – what I am worried about are the thoughts/images of me hurting Jesus through His torture and crucifixion and my reaction to these thoughts/feelings by still entering the building. I did not rationally dismiss them as OCD as I could have done, rather I tried to ignore them or let them be as I went in the building, acknowledging on some level through my perceived guilt that they might be true. Had I rationally assessed the situation I could have reasoned that entering the building may or may not have been sinful and that these thoughts/images were OCD and nothing more. I had no clear, rational reason to believe that I was actually hurting Jesus, and it was not my intention to do so at all. However, I went ahead and entered twice, not combatting these thoughts but letting them be and assuming on some rushed and hurried level that they were true. Is my anxious assuming on some level that I was hurting Jesus and my continued actions in this direction mortally sinful?

FATHER JOE: Nothing you describe had any affect upon Jesus except that he would have you know healing. You may call it OCD but whatever the mental illness, I would urge you to continue in getting help.
George Honse, on June 6, 2023 at 9:07 pm said:

I have made promises to god in times of stress. To explain further I promised god that I would not use nicotine products anymore if he were to keep my father cancer free since he has an appointment coming up in the next month. I feel super guilty if I were to use nicotine products and I just want to know will god punish me by allowing my father to have cancer if I break my promise?

FATHER JOE: One should not make stupid promises as if one could bargain with God. That is not how prayer works.
Luke, on June 6, 2023 at 6:13 pm said:

Good evening Father. Thank you for answering me. I have already found an answer to my last question. I have a new one. I’m very sorry if my question is too explicit, I hope it doesn’t offend anyone.

When I was 11 years old, a person on the internet sent me a message and tried to befriend me. Then, that person asked me to send impure pictures and videos of myself, which I did. My therapist said it is called “grooming”. But I worry that I’m actually the culprit because my memory is unclear, I can’t remember if I was aware of how sinful the situation was, BUT I do remember hiding the situation from my parents, so I knew it was a bad thing?
The thing is, on my last confession I said that I was unsure if I did it willingly, that only God knows what the truth is…

By stating the sin in such way, did I make it clear enough for the confession to be valid?
Thank you very much.

FATHER JOE: You confessed to a priest. Leave it there.
Robert, on June 5, 2023 at 10:55 pm said:

Fiancé and I are debating whether we should have a child now or be stuck waiting another few years

Both myself (M 28) and my fiancée (F 31) want to have a baby and conceive soon but we’re not yet married by the Church. Our wedding will be late in 2024, which for reasons I’ll list below may jeopardize our window of opportunity for having a kid before serious career related concerns come into focus. Because this is such a nuanced scenario, we haven’t found anyone else on the internet with the same problem. Would it be wrong for us to knowingly choose to conceive a child before we were properly married?

The reason for this situation is that my fiancé is trying to balance her career as a lawyer with becoming a mother and raising any potential child. She would naturally need to take maternity leave to have a baby but this would impact her ability to work if she chose to have a child later and she is in the unfortunate position where she won’t be guaranteed maternity leave in her new role for the next few years. In the case that we had a kid later, she would be forced to abandon her career trajectory and give up on her dream job as would need to quit to help mother any potential infant.

We would ideally want to both have a kid and have her keep her career, but the colossal problem with this is we aren’t married yet and won’t be for another year; and by then we may run out of time before she begins the next phase of her career. She has benefits like maternity leave right now and would absolutely want to leverage this now rather than be forced to quit after having struggled through law school. We’re also deeply concerned with putting off pregnancy into our late 30s as there are inherently more risks with having children so late in our 30s.

We love each other very much and will of course have any potential child baptized and brought up Catholic, but I can’t shake the fact that this might just be plain unfeasible. How should we proceed in a way that works best?

FATHER JOE: Career issues should not enter into it. You are not married and thus you have no right to the marital act. If you really want a child then move up the church wedding date. However, no priest is going to justify pre-marital sexual sin.
Wyatt N, on June 5, 2023 at 12:11 am said:

I (18 male) have been invited to go on vacation with my same age girlfriend and her family. This is a FAMILY vacation we won’t have alone time for inappropriate things or anything like that we will constantly be occupied. I am independent I go to church with my mom every weekend I’m an accomplished kid I have 0 disciplinary problems and decent grades. My mom who is very a devoted Catholic won’t let me go on this vacation since she claims it is immoral. Should I be allowed to go on the vacation?

FATHER JOE: I would not want to place my advice between a mother and her son. If young men and women desire to commit sinful intimacies then they will find times and places to do so, family vacation or not. What attracts my attention is that you are eighteen years old. Why would an adult male need permission to make such decisions?
Luke, on June 4, 2023 at 7:25 pm said:

Hello Father,
I did a general confession, but when saying one MORTAL sin I was deeply ashamed of, I tried to ALLEVIATE my sense of shame by changing a circumstance (age). That change doesn’t modify the gravity of the sin, but I DELIBERATELY said a LIE to Jesus Christ Himself…
In this case, did I commit a sacrilege?
Should I do a general confession again? Or should I confess that I lied during confession and explain the circumstances?

Thanks a lot for offering your knowledge

FATHER JOE: The question is too vague to answer. What is the sin and how does age factor into it? But any deception in the confessional is to be avoided.
Mary, on May 30, 2023 at 3:01 pm said:

Good morning, Father. I teach in a Catholic school. We have students from many backgrounds, including both Roman Catholic and various Orthodox churches. I hold that students who are not Roman Catholic, even though they are Orthodox, can not act as altar servers at our weekly masses. I stated that they are not in communion with the Roman Catholic Church and that they are not properly trained in our Mass traditions. Another teacher said, “They are more Catholic than we are.” I find that erroneous and offensive but I thought I’d check. All my research has only addressed receiving Holy Communion. Will you please clarify? Thank you.

FATHER JOE:

This is a tricky question as the minimum requirement for altar servers is that they be baptized and be able to lawfully take Holy Communion. Obviously, this is problematical for Protestants because our altar is closed to them. However, Orthodox believers are not strictly prohibited from taking the sacrament in our churches. My problem with having Orthodox children serve at Catholic Masses would be in regard to their desire, the consent of parents and (most importantly) the stance of their own pastors. Orthodox bishops would generally prefer that their believers not take Holy Communion in Roman Catholic churches. Given this stance, having them serve might place them in conflict with the teachings and laws of their own church. Indeed, they might interpret this as an effort to proselytize their flock. Thus, I agree with your negative stance. Your critics mean well but such inclusion is pretentious against other faith communities and violates true ecumenism.

Many in the Orthodox churches prefer Catholic parochial schools over public schools because we share much in regard to faith and values— but not everything. Their churches are not in juridical union with ours and they do not acknowledge the full authority of the Holy See. We must respect that.
Bill, on May 28, 2023 at 10:01 pm said:

The Catholic Church goes to great lengths to encourage the faithful to forgive themselves and others. Why won’t the Catholic Church reconcile with the Masonic Lodge? Isn’t it hypocrisy to hold a grudge? Isn’t pride a capital sin?

FATHER JOE: There is no grudge from the Catholic Church. The problem is that the Free Masons as a secret society have throughout history plotted against the Church. Further, Catholics are generally forbidden to join any so-called secret society. As for modern day Masonry, there remain issues with the prayers and rituals employed. It functions more as a non-Christian religion than simply a club. These prayers and the rituals associated with them constitutes false religion. Such is prohibited by the Decalogue. One cannot belong to the Roman Catholic religion and to Masonry. Those who try are not in good standing with the Church.
Barbara, on May 21, 2023 at 8:04 am said:

Fr, i am aware of breeching copyright laws in my work life .I would like to make restitution but don’t know how much I owe as many years have passed in some cases

FATHER JOE: Sounds like you may have a greater need of a lawyer than a priest over this.
John Smith, on May 21, 2023 at 7:35 am said:

I have a question about God that I’ve been pondering. If the scientific theory that infinite realities exist beyond the space time continuum is correct. Does that mean there are infinite gods one for each reality or does that mean there is only one God above all infinite realities?

FATHER JOE:

First, the notion of infinite realities is conjecture and the mathematics of the various string theories posit eleven dimensions at last reckoning. The truth be told, there is no certainty about such matters and the universe we know may be all there is.

Second, regardless of the makeup of reality, it is all created by one omnipotent God who sustains the entire created order, both the material (seen) and the spiritual (unseen). God is self-existing and the source of order and life. Created things are dependent upon him and participate or have a small share in his perfections. As the divine author, God is outside of space and time.
Tess, on May 17, 2023 at 4:07 pm said:

Hello Father, I have a question as to what constitutes the sin of masturbation?

FATHER JOE: It is the act or practice of the self-stimulation of one’s sexual organs. However this is done, if it is disassociated from the marital act then it is sinful. As a self-indulgent act, it fails to realize an intimate and mutual self-offering to a beloved. The person treats his or her body as a plaything. Often through the imagination there is the devaluation of others. Because we are our bodies, such sins constitute the matter of mortal sin.
Onyedo, on May 17, 2023 at 8:56 am said:

Please Father what do I do in this situation?

I converted to the Catholic Church as a result of our marriage. I fell in love with the faith and made sure all five of my children were baptized. Now I find out that my husband is an occultist and an adulterer with another family overseas. He introduced pornography into our marriage and he became a porn and alcohol addict. After about a month into our wedding, my husband stopped going to Mass on Sundays; but I would go every single Sunday with my children. We had three children before actually getting married in the Church. I forgot to mention that he is also trying to initiate my only son (eighteen years of age) into the occult. Fortunately my second daughter has already consecrated him to St. Joseph. I think my husband might be possessed. There is also the issue of medical bills. I have been diagnosed with an ailment that resulted from the contraceptive pills I have been taking. My husband introduced me them. He was a lapsed Catholic and I did not know it was wrong. I did not have much knowledge of the Catholic faith and relied mostly on what he told me. Now I am experiencing physical and emotional abuse. I do not know if I am being punished for my sins. I think he wants to kill me and take away the children. I do not know if I would survive due to the fact that my so-called husband wants me dead. I believe he can change, even if he has another wife— he is also my husband.

I am afraid of getting an annulment because of my children. I do not want them to be without a father because of how the society looks down on such people. Most will actually put the blame on me as a woman, even though I am the victim. I do not know how I will live with gossip from neighbors, family members, friends and parishioners. Like I said, I am scared of an annulment. I do not even know how much that would cost.

For 19 years of marriage I have been handling more than 70% of the family expenses. I’m only a school teacher but I’m from a wealthy background. Since I was diagnosed with my condition, he has not contributed a dime for the medical treatment. I do not know how I will be able to cope with 100% of the expenses. With the way things are I do not really get much help from family members since two of my children are out of college and free of debts. But they do not understand that my salary and my first daughter’s salary will not be enough to satisfy the costs with the education of the other three children. They are not as good academically.

I am concerned about my children’s future. Two of my children (daughters) just graduated from the University. I never allowed them to be involved in any side hustle or part-time jobs because I wanted a white collar job for both of them. My first daughter is not so good academically and she is not as likely to land a good paying job. My second daughter who graduated with a first is not interested in working. She wants to discern religious life. I have tried to explain to her the situation in the family but she is deaf to my pleadings. I do not want my daughter to enter religious life. I just cannot see myself accepting it. I actually threatened her that I would leave the Church and kill myself if she leaves for the convent. My son is not serious with his studies. He wants to play football but I do not want that. I want him to become an engineer. Very sorry if it seems I am too pushy. But I want to see all my children become successful. I have worked really hard to raise them. They have to repay my efforts. They are the only reason I have endured this marriage up to this day. But now my life is in danger.

I am too ashamed to be without a husband. I have never liked being humiliated. That is why even when my husband wanted to take my children to a public school (because he did not want to provide), I disagreed and decided to take on the responsibility of their education in a private school. I find it hard to discuss my life’s situation with my parish priest. It is very shameful. Please help me Father. My life is in a mess, what do I do?

FATHER JOE:

What part of this is good? If you are suffering physical and emotional abuse then you need to get out of this relationship or at least get him out of your house. You should contact social services and seek counseling. If your husband has physically abused you then it should be reported to the police. Those with abusive personalities often do not restrict themselves to a spouse. Are you certain the children have not been abused by him? The fact that he is trying to introduce your son to pornography means that he is immediately at risk, even though at 18 years of age he is legally an adult.

The Occult

What kind of occultist is your husband? This is unclear. Such can include everything between New Age religion and outright satanic witchcraft or sorcery. The sin of superstition and false worship introduces the demonic into the home.

Adultery

What do you mean him being an adulterer with a second spouse and family overseas? Did you know about it before your relationship and union? Was it civilly contracted or in the Church? Would it constitute legal bigamy? Does it affect the standing of your marital bond, either before the law or the Church? I take it that your marriage was witnessed by a priest or deacon in the Catholic Church.

I cannot say whether he can change in his ways. But if you think he wants to kill you then your choice is clear. The good of marriage is not being served here and you are likely in danger. You need to take actions to protect yourself and the family. Your husband sounds like a dangerous predator.

Annulment

If you really feel there is no true marriage then I would urge you to speak to a priest about the situation. The Church will not rule on an annulment until after there is a civil divorce. Annulments require grounds that go back to when you entered into your marriage. If a marriage is not witnessed by the clergy of the Church then it can be declared null due to a lack of canonical form. If it is canonically recognized then possible grounds would include deception, addiction, inability to fulfill the obligations of marriage, gross immaturity, serious mental illness, coercion, etc. Under Pope Francis, annulment cases worldwide go before Tribunals for free. Do not worry about what people will say. Along with your children, you want to stay safe.

Expenses

Most families with children in private schools and colleges are not debt free. It is great that you have been able to provide so much for your children and still pay your bills. But times change and you are not obligated to bankroll the entire education of your children. Siblings might want to help each other to advance forward but they are also not morally required to pay the debts of their brothers and sisters. Given that your husband is bringing nothing to the table, you are redirecting your upset from him to your children. Helping them is fine but they should also have the maturity to help themselves and make their own decisions.

Children

It is wonderful that you are concerned for your children and their futures. However, you are seriously in the wrong to control their lives now that they are adults. Your daughters would likely have benefited from side-jobs and taking upon themselves some of the financial weight of their education. As for the daughter who has discerned a call to the religious life, she must answer a call from God despite any roadblocks placed before her. You speak of your husband as possessed; but any who would prevent a young person from answering a divine call to the consecrated life is essentially doing the devil’s work. You should rejoice that you have a daughter who is discerning a vocation as a religious spouse to Christ. Trying to manipulate her with guilt and threats of suicide is wrong and a terrible sin on your part. Tell her that you love and support her. Indeed, you have done your part. As your children grow up, you must be willing to let them go. No matter whether they have a degree and work in an office or have a certificate and work with their hands— it is their choice. They must live their own lives.
John, on May 16, 2023 at 11:47 am said:

Father Joe, my friend recently went through a major operation ( stomach removal) . I sent him this : Be assured that christ’s peace resides in you as you embrace the weight and the enormity of the day. Looking forward to your recovery and return to normal .
Please pray as you do, thanks
Mike, on May 15, 2023 at 8:53 pm said:

Hi

My name is Mike but I’m changing that soon. I went to one of your buildings here in south Bend Indiana because I was under spiritual attack but I was turned away but I was able to deliver a message.

I need to have a miracle of healing confirmed. The proof is medical records from birth, polygraph, and the Holy Spirit will be working through this LOWLY VESSEL for the Returning King the Lord Jesus Christ and LOVE for God’s Glory

AMEN

1st Corinthians 12

I have many listed and unlisted and it appears that I am one of the two mentioned in Revelation 11

God is UNFAILING

HE CHOSE ME

NO PROVE ME WRONG

IF YOU CAN

BUT BY GODS

WORD WHERE POWER AND AUTHORITY

THAT HAS BEEN ALLOWED TO ME I WILL DO HIS WILL NEVER MANS

AMEN

Free will
Accept or Deny
But you are CHARGED with TESTING ALL THINGS
AMEN

FATHER JOE: You sound confused and in desperate need of prayer.
Bob, on May 15, 2023 at 5:52 pm said:

It is said that there is no sadness in heaven. However, if a mother goes to heaven and her child does not, wouldn’t that absence make a mother sad?

FATHER JOE: No, there can be no sadness in heaven. Sadness requires an empty space in the human heart. However, God fills every corner of paradise. There is no room for sadness. If it were any different then heaven would not be heaven. Sadness over the damned would constitute manipulation. The damned would never want heaven because they want no part of the divine presence. If they could, they would draw the saints into hell.
John billow, on May 13, 2023 at 10:33 am said:

Be assured that christ’s peace resides in you as you embrace the weight and the enormity of the day. Looking forward to your
Recovery and return to normal
Activities. From john
Deano, on May 12, 2023 at 1:00 am said:

Hi Father,

I have a question about business ethics. I came up with a title for a creative project that after doing a search no one else appeared to be using. The domain name was available and I purchased it and moved forward with the project.

However I recently discovered that at least one other person is using a similar version of the title as their username on social media.

Lets say, for example, I thought I had come up with Supermouse and they are using SuperMouse as their username.

But they don’t seem to be using it in a professional/creative capacity, and the name is not trademarked.

Legally, I can register the trademark (and would most likely do so with the definite article, as in, “The Supermouse”) but in terms of business ethics, I’m not sure what to do because the title isn’t as generic as “Supermouse.”

Thanks!

FATHER JOE: Really not sure what to tell you. I grew up with the cartoon Mighty Mouse!
Hunter, on May 11, 2023 at 5:34 am said:

Father,
I have spent many a dreadful year in loathing and disstain for myself on multiple levels both physically, and mentallh. It is because of this that I have come to the realization that I myself have strayed from gods light and thusly that my soul has been tainted. I am like so many young men my age…lost. Since then, it sometimes seems as though I have lost a piece of myself that I am worried that I may never re-attain. I do not believe myself to be beyond salvation, however, I sometimes look around me at people my age and see nothing but sin and the blatant bastardization of gods creation. I believe that there are angels amongst us which is why I pose to you the question; “How do I find my way to god’s righteous love once more, and resist the vast societal pressure to become something that I am not?”.

FATHER JOE: If you are a Catholic then you go to confession and attend Sunday Mass each week. Daily say your prayers, obey the commandments and remember the less fortunate in charity. Instead of trying to find yourself, let God find you.
Alejandro, on May 11, 2023 at 12:18 am said:

Dear Father,
I’am a catholic who was born and still live in Aruba a small island. Now here in Aruba most priest come from abroad, so most of them don’t speak the native language (Papiamento) fluently.

The priest from my parish is from the Philippines and although he has an accent he speaks papiamento rather fluently. He was my confessor at my last confession.

My last was my first confession in about 7 years and frankly I forgot how to confess. During my confession everything was going well untill my mind went blank and I forgot a sin that I wanted to confess. When that happend I said to my confessor that I am trying to remember, and he must have misheard what I said (remember my confessor is from the Philippines), because he started giving me advice on how to deal with sin and before I knew it he started the prayer of absolution. Now at about halfway through the prayer of absolution I rememberthe sin that I wanted to confess, but because I didn’t know if I schould stop the prayer or not I simply didn’t do anything.

My question is Father. Was my confession still valid or did I commit sacrilege?

Looking forward to your reply,

Thank you Father,

FATHER JOE: It sounds to me that you made a good confession.
David Morris, on May 10, 2023 at 7:46 pm said:

Good evening,
I have returned to the church after many decades away.
I spoke to a Priest and explained my situation. He told me if I was repentant my sins are forgiven. I confessed my sins to God in personal prayer. I would like to go to confession in church but I’ve recently had surgery on my throat and must refrain from speaking for quite a long period of time. My question is can I give the Priest a written list of my transgressions?
Thankyou for your understanding in this matter.
David

FATHER JOE: See your local priest and communicate with him any way you can. If this is impossible then (internally) make a good confession and when possible go to confession.