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Wife decided over 14 years now not to allow me to have sex with her. Is this right to not allow me this right thru marriage. I was wrong to commit adultery and surely my judgement will be served. But should she have taken my rights thru marriage. It’s it not for Better or for Worst?
so many different oplnions about if touching you penis and it gets hard but i donot masterbate is this a sin im 83 years old and have no nasty thinking when i do this out side of my wife of 63 years
What does new witness mean during end times?
I believe I’m being by bothered by succubus. At night I have Dreams that. Bother me. The next morning I wake up with scratches and bruises with no idea how they got thé And my clothes will be off with no idea how they off any suggestions would be great THIS NOT A JOKE TEXT
Dear Father my name is Nola I am 70 and live in Sydney Australia and I feel like such a fool for asking this, I’ve been on fb for many years and then facebook required security for me to log in and as I don’t have a mobile/cell phone i wasn’t able to log in as me until my dear neighbour solved the problem, she came over and used her mobile phone to enable facebook security for me and it worked, yet Father I am concerned that I’ve done something wrong is using my neighbours phone to gain access to facebook anything sinful?, it’s in my head and i can’t get it out, am I able to log in to facebook without any qualms about if i’ve done anything wrong, I know this sounds so trite Father, yet Please I need your advice. Thank You.
Dear Father, I know this is long but please help me.
After a time of crisis, I have found myself battling against scrupulosity. Even worse, I think I have a kind of spiritual OCD.
Like every normal person, I wacthed movies and videos on social media and it is hard or even impossible for any secular entertaiment to not have a single curse words. Before scrupulosity I have no problem ignoring these curses and focus on the plot.
However, when I have scrupulosity, curses words against God begins to automatically and randomly appears in my head. They seems to be from what I heard in the movies or social media and it seems like a “tics” to me since i can’t control them.
Whenever I think of the fact that I have them, they’ll appear. Even when I am frustrated or angry at something and especially when I wacth something that has a suprising factor to it, instead of thinking “Wow” or “This is amazing and interesting”, these curse words against God appears in my head instead. Needless to say, I didn’t want any of this and was terrified and saddened.
After a while, I got used to this, remind myself and build a reaction of shaking my head to push them away. I recognized that amidst the endless questions, fear and anxiety caused by scrupulosity I have to change my focus onto something more relaxing, but even to watch something to entertain myself also becomes a sources to feed on my anxiety.
Dear Father, what should I do ? I can’t stay away from every forms of entertainment for the rest of my life. But if I continue watching, I’m afraid I would be committing a sin of blasphemy against Our Lord. Is it a sin if I choose to watching anything that is secular at this point ?
I went to confession recently but I don’t know if I had true sorrow. I certainly wanted my sins to be wiped off my soul because I felt bad about offending God through my actions. I was also afraid of punishment after I die, so that’s why I went to confession. But, I don’t remember specifically thinking, “I wish I hadn’t done these particular actions.” Does it sound like I had true sorrow? Thanks.
Dear Father
Is there a particular time of year that the Readings about Noah and the Great Flood are associated ?
Thanks and God Bless You,
Bill
I was wondering I was joking and reading bible quotes on the bus was feeling like I mocked him and god later felt as if as I was mocking him and I felt guilt I don’t know if I will be forgiven I don’t think i am better than god or Jesus I just want to know if I will be forgiven I regret doing this so much and I want to take the right path will I go to hell for this
Father;
“Merry Christmas,” Over the years my neighborhood has been turning into rental properties whereby the renters are mainly Latino’s / Mexican and Puerto Rican. What are these people trying to say to Jesus each Christmas via their huge displays of fireworks (with some gunfire) and Salsa music instead of gentle Christmas music. Thanks for an understandable reply. Phillip Kleinmann; Tice,Ft Myers, FL hoping for silent Holy nights during this holiday season. Being originally from Albany, NY this has truly become Hellfire culture shock..
Father;
“Merry Christmas,” Over the years my neighborhood has been turning into rental properties whereby the renters are mainly Latino’s / Mexican and Puerto Rican.What are these people trying to say to Jesus each Christmas via their huge displays of fireworks (with some gunfire) and Salsa music instead of gentle Christmas music. Thanks for an understandable reply. Phillip Kleinmann; Tice,Ft Myers, FL hoping for silent Holy nights during this holiday season. Being originally from Albany, NY this has truly become Hellfire culture shock..
Is sleeping with my girlfriend on FaceTime a sin? I know that sleeping in the same bed in wrong, but I wasn’t sure about on a video call. Thanks!
Me and my friends were moving as a group and they were walking around and setting small things useless trash on fire, I don’t remember but I may have supplied a lighter. I knew this and was going along, watching, having fun. One of my friends ended up causing a fire that went out of control and caused some damage.
Where I stand here, if it were me who put the fire I know it would be clear that I should pay but I stand in a grey zone in matters of responsibility here, do I have to pay something to the owner of the property?
I have been extremely scrupulous and I’m looking for objective principles to guide my decisions. One priest I talked with didn’t even care about restitutions as a penance. My scrupulous conscience is wondering if he is being too lax or if he represents the views of the Church. Thank you.
Hello,
I recently just went to reconciliation and I did make sure to examine my conscience before going.
A few hours after reconciliation I had the thought that I might have forgotten to confess sins.
I’m unsure if I took the lord’s name in Van because it is a possibility although I’m not sure if I did and I don’t think I did but again I’m not sure and I’m doubtful.
I’m also unsure if I confessed two or three other sins that came to mind and doubt if I confessed them.
Also I can’t seem to fully remember even though it was just a number of hours ago of what I confessed although I did examine my conscience and confess sincerely.
What should I do? Can I still receive Eucharist this weekend Christmas Day Mass?
Sincerely,
Y
I have a problem. Never in my life I’ve watched pornography nor sat down and said: “Imma masturbate today”. I am 16 and all of my friends say thay Im not living my life because Im taking the Bible too seriously. Girls know more about a mans body than me. The problem is that I want to know about womans body and go trough the “introduction of your body” with myself but Im constantly scared because I think God will struck me with bad moments in my life, I wont get excellent grades in school, I will go to hell and he will not like me like he used to. I dont know if I can ejaculate properly if that is a term or if I am 100% heterosexual (wich I hope I am). So my question is does God affect my school success if I do such things but just for knowledge. I wont do it every day or every month. I just want to experience it. I promised to God that I wont do it if he helped me in school but Im not good to my parents so I thought maybe its better to promise him that I will be a better person than not masturbating for knowledge. My family is very strong in faith. I never cursed and I fell in a crisis of emotions after my girlfriend just almost coldbloded left me. I lost emotions and became cold and lost that feeling of Gods presence even tho I still pray and everything. I hope you understand what I wrote. Thank you!
If a person dies & wishes to be Cremated will a priest bless her ashes? Does the person need to be a member of a Catholic church? Is this allowed?
Why is masturbation sinful for single people? I understand entirely why it is sinful for the married, and I even understand how it is sinful to imagine yourself with other people, for lust is very harmful to the spirit. However, is it, and if so, why is it , sinful to masturbate without lusting in the heart and mind if one is single? It would seem to me that this act is a release for the body and a natural function, and that the issue lies in the lust that so often accompanies this action. Especially if we believe that the single life can indeed be a vocation, it seems that masturbation free from lust would be the natural outlet of the sexual faculties which are suppressed in the single life.
This is a new question, about prayer. I looked for a similar one here last night but couldn’t find one.
Is a conversation still considered prayer?
If you ask to speak with God, would He allow satan to answer and pretend to be Him?
If you don’t initiate the conversation but God or satan does, how do you know for sure which one you’re speaking with?
Thank you.
Why does God allow us to love so deeply only to have our hearts tore out so many times during our life?
I am a great fan of the catechism of St. Pope Pius X. It was written for the ordinary person and uses plain language. As support for my position I quote Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI who said that catechism still has value today.
In your opinion, are there any statements in that catechism which are no longer considered true by the Church? For example, four sins in particular which cry out to God for vengeance are mentioned: willful murder, sodomy, oppression of the poor, and defrauding laborers of their wages.
It goes on to say “9 Q. Why are these sins said to cry to God for vengeance?
A. These sins are said to cry to God for vengeance because the Holy Ghost says so, and because their iniquity is so great and so manifest that it provokes God to punish them with the severest chastisements.”
Is this article in the catechism still considered valid in the Church today? If not, why not?
Thank you.
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Hello Father,
I have a rental car discount code from a previous employer. Is it a sin for me to still use the discount?
The disclaimer when making a reservation says “You may be asked to verify employment status”
If asked I would not lie and would say I am a former employee.
Dear father am here to apply for priesthood
I am fearful that we are living in the end of times. Do you feel the climate change, major catastrophes, Covid, economy, famine are signs of day of Judgment?
Hello, is saying things like holy crap and sh** are considered as saying the Lord’s name in vain? I am also wondering if it’s a mortal sin to say holey moley? There is a golf club with that name that I went to subsequent to my confession and I’d say the name for fun several times, not knowing the severity of what Im saying. Thanks
I’ve spent most of my life living in service to others in need through work and social life (volunteering). I’m middle-aged now. I’ve burnt out of most of these jobs and volunteering I’ve had because the need is so great and others have always been very willing to take advantage of my passion and need to serve. I’m burnt, depressed, and very lonely -I have no social life other than doing for others and have no savings and am always having serious financial problems because a life of service does not pay well at all. I am struggling with wanting very much to let it all go and making myself the priority in my life – finding a job for money and benefits so I can live a comfortable life, stopping my volunteer work and creating a social life for myself and find a life partner/husband (someone who loves me and whom I can love without fear of being taken for granted) to spend the rest of my life with. The thing is, there is so much need out there. I know I can’t do it all but feel that someone needs to help in my corner of the world and I really don’t want to do it anymore, at all – I’m tired of being taken advantage of, not only by those that also ‘help’ but by those I am serving as well and taken for granted and being left alone to pick up the pieces when others leave to enjoy their own social lives and take vacations with family and loved ones and make money to enjoy those things. I am constantly haunted by the passage: “For whosoever will save his life, shall lose it: and whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel, shall save it.” I can’t do it anymore and I bear so much guilt by letting this go and fear that I am going against what we are asked to do. How do I reconcile wanting a life for myself with “losing myself for the sake of God?”