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Dear Fr. Joe,
As we know, Jesus died on Good Friday and rose on Easter Sunday. However, Scripture predicted He would rise from the the dead three days after his Death. If Our Lord rose three days later (and Monday occurs three days after Friday on the Calendar), why don’t we, as Catholic-Christians consider Monday to be our Sabbath Day, instead of Sunday?
Also, the Jewish Sabbath is Friday. Why don’t we, as Catholic-Christians share the same Sabbath as the Jews, since the roots of Catholicism branched off from Judaism?
Thank you in advance!
God Bless You!
Hi Fr. Joseph,
I have a theca with several relics housed inside of it. I can’t seem to figure out what one of the relics could be. It is Ex Fasc D.N.J.C. or Ex Fase D.N.J.C
I asked my priest but he can’t figure it out either.
Thank you and may God bless you!
Octavio
Father Joe I have a very embarrassing question do you ever email privately? What I have been going through has all but stolen my Faith.
To Bill
There is still temporal punishment due because of sin. All will be judged. There is a particular judgment at death and a last or final judgment at the consummation of all things and the end of the world.
If one makes a confession and that one’s sins are forgiven, and they keep up with regular confession until the day of their death, then is it reasonable to assume they die “sinless?” And if that is so, why must there be a Judgement Day for one whose sins have all been forgiven?
Fr Joe,
I just came out of confession and the priest didn’t say the whole absolution prayer. He started with “by the ministry of the church” and finished from there. I did my penance.
Am I absolved?
Should I have said something?
To Charles Rose
The confessor says, “God, the Father of mercies, through the death and resurrection of his Son has reconciled the world to himself and sent the Holy Spirit among us for the forgiveness of sins; through the ministry of the Church may God give you pardon and peace, and I absolve you from your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, + and of the Holy Spirit.” Given that there is genuine sorrow for sin, a firm intention for the amendment of life, and a good confession, then all sins mortal and venial are forgiven. There may still be temporal punishment due to sin. This may be remedied somewhat by penance. Sins forgotten are also remitted.
When a priest gives absolution and he says:I FORGIVE YOU ALL YOUR SINS” DOES THIS MEAN THAT ALL SINS OF ONE LIFE IS FORGIVEN? BECAUSE I AM SCRUPULOUS I NEED TO KNOW THE ANSWER. IF I SAY AFTER MY CONFESSIONS FOR THESE SINS AND ALL THE SINS OF MY LIFE I ASK FOR ABSOLUTION
BU SAYING FOR ALL MY SINS..WOUID THIS BE LIKE MAKING AN EXAM
Thank you, Father Joe. That was what I needed. I did not mean to be rude in my last comment but I felt a bit like you were dismissing me as if my question and comment were unreasonable or petty. Now I know that’s not the case. I’m sorry if I hurt you.
You have made me feel much better about the situation. Although we have been very careful to keep our relationship pure and good, I didnt realize the harm it may be doing to him. I guess I needed to hear from an unbiased priest what it’s like for my priest to be in this situation. It truly is not easy for me to go to another Parish as I live in a remote rural area but now that I know that I may be harming him just by being there and that it will hurt him less if I leave, I will switch Parishes.
You are right that no matter what you say, it will hurt me. But this hurts less than continuing on thinking that I am protecting us both from more hurt by sticking around.. I needed to hear it from someone who actually knows. I really, truly do want what’s best for him and now I know for sure what that is.
Thank you for taking the time to respond again. May God bless you. 🙏
Re-edited Comment to Gabriel’s Girl
I write: “The priest may be fond of you but that is not the same as a forbidden particular friendship or the enticement of romantic love. Evidently, nothing has been said and you are likely imagining what he feels for you.”
You write: “Okay. Perhaps I didn’t do the best job at describing my situation but it is clear to me that you didn’t read my comment thoroughly either. I am married. I wasn’t looking for permission to lead my priest astray and just wanted some advice from you, as a priest, on how to handle my love for him.”
I am hesitant to respond because anything I say will hurt you. I am sorry. You are correct that I missed the fact that you are a “married” woman in your mid-50s. I apologize for that but I read the comments quickly after coming in from a funeral and I was tired. However, my advice remains basically the same, even if you are dismissive and do not want to hear it.
You may not be “a lovesick hormonal teenager” and I take you for your word when you say that you know “the difference between love and infatuation,” but LOOK closely at what you write:
Married or not, you are way too much into him. Does your husband know? As for what the priest feels for you, there is nothing truly certain other than he likes you as one of his many parishioners. I would still insist that you are projecting that he feels for you as you do for him.
You write that “After eight years I have no doubt in my mind that his feelings for me are far beyond fondness or a ‘particular friendship.’” This is likely a mistake but if it were true then he should immediately request a transfer to another parish. Note what you say in imagining or “discerning” what he feels for you: “I know he loves me too… not because he is leading me on or anything, but because of the way his face lights up when he sees me, etc.” You suppose that he would be “heartbroken” if you went to another parish. You suggest that he “needs you” as much as you “need him.”
It is good that you have prayed that your feelings might subside over time. I cannot measure the conflict within you but if praying for strength fails then worshipping elsewhere would be a good option. Do not fool yourself about the “jeopardy” of such situations. Do not worry that changing parishes would “break his heart.” What you fail to understand is that priests are wounded healers. Our hearts are broken again and again. How could it be otherwise for men who are configured to Christ, the sacred heart that is pierced, surrounded by thorns and aflame? If he felt for you as you say, I would have thought he would have sought a transfer. Many priests have their heart-strings tugged. We are only human. The good ones make distance, not just because of possible sin, but to liberate priestly hearts to lovingly serve God in his holy people.
There are certain women that remind priests of doors not opened and paths not taken. The priest is moved by a piety that complements his own. His mind strays to the truth that had he been like other men that she might have been his wife and the mother of his children. However, the heart of his home is Christ and the one woman who shares his spiritual intimacy in prayer is Mary. The door must be kept closed to certain relationships. There are some earthly friendships that cannot be pursued. A woman might feel hurt when a priest becomes distant and cold. She imagines that for some reason he does not like her. What she does not know, and what remains unspoken, is that he likes her too much.
You and your priest are both married. He is married to the Church. Simple parochial friendship with a priest is fine. There are some elderly women in parishes that in a motherly way look at priests as their sons. This is sweet. There are men and women who become especially close and become family, albeit on the level of virtual brothers and sisters. But, as for anything else, no… it is not trivial… it is not safe… it is not good. Again, if your emotions for the priest are overwhelming then it may be best to find another parish. Most priests are happy with their lives. Find genuine happiness in yours.
Hi again Father Joe,
Okay. Perhaps I didn’t do the best job at describing my situation but it is clear to me that you didn’t read my comment thoroughly either. I am married. I wasn’t looking for permission to lead my priest astray and just wanted some advice from you, as a priest, on how to handle my love for him. I am not a lovesick hormonal teenager and I know the difference between love and infatuation. After 8 years I have no doubt in my mind that his feelings for me are far beyond fondness or a “particular friendship”. I also love him enough to not put him in jeopardy but also enough to know that if I simply change Parishes, it will break his heart.
Never mind. Thanks anyway.
To Mark
What you write makes me worry that you might have mental health issues. Do you suffer from chronic anxiety and/or scrupulosity? The call to salvation is answered by a faith in Christ lived out with obedience and charity in the Church. Agonizing about improbable hurdles projected from your imagination is not healthy. Stop fantasizing and devote yourself to living as a true disciple. Dispose yourself for the graces that come from Christian discipleship and the sacraments. God loves you and he wants to shower you with his gifts.
So my question is: Does Jesus call people into heaven while they are still on Earth? Is that even possible? I ask because I had a feeling that Jesus was calling me to come with him in heaven. I felt that he would come for my soul just i had to wait a bit. What I did after, I swore on Jesus and whole heaven with saints then immediately my heart beat extremely increased I was in fear like I lost my only chance for salvation as Jesus offered me heaven and with my sin (swearing) I kinda rejected him and now I feel like I will go to hell. Do you believe that Jesus called me in heaven? That is my biggest doubt. Thanks in advance!
Hi Father Joe,
I am a married woman in my mid 50s. I have been in love with my priest for over 8 years. I know he loves me too…not because he is leading me on or anything, but because of the way his face lights up when he sees me, etc. I have tried not to think about him but sometimes my mind (and heart) seem to be consumed by him. I hoped (and even prayed) after all this time my feelings would subside but they haven’t. It is far to another Parish and to be honest I think he’d be heartbroken if I left. I know I would be. I think he needs me to be close as much as I need him. I really love him and want what’s best for him but I can’t bear to lose our friendship. What can I do besides pray for strength?
A friend of mine who is a catechist says that I cannot take communion until I get an annulment. I was told by a bishop and priest that I could accept communion so long as I did not get married again or enter a sexual relationship; but if I decided to get married again then I would have to get an annulment first. Does this catechist know more than the bishop and the priest? I have left the Church because of this. I would like an answer sent to my email address. Thank you.
To Blackwell…
A few words about the value of clerical celibacy written for his old friend Cardinal Sarah in an upcoming book is hardly the stuff of betrayal to Pope Francis. The media really is nuts. Everything is given a spin. Confrontation (even when imagined) is the name of the game.
What do you think about the following?
https://www.yahoo.com/news/ex-pope-benedict-rejects-opening-priesthood-married-men-202354226.html
Thanks for your time,
Ed
Never mind. It’s too late. My son has just refused.
Hi Fr. Joe,
During the celebration of Mass, we as Catholic believe the veil between earth and Heaven opens. And during Mass, angels and Saints are present around the altar. This makes sense to me. But recently a priest made a comment about the souls in Purgatory also being present at each Mass. Why would we believe this to be true? Thank you.
To Clarksism
Humanity is privileged because of the incarnation; however, human beings are below the angelic in the hierarchical chain of being: God, angels, humans, animals, plants, and inanimate minerals (rocks).
The notion of any transmigration of souls from one body to another is more like possession than reincarnation. The Church utterly rejects the notion. Each human soul is created immediately by God at the moment of conception. There is no heavenly reservoir where they are waiting and souls do not move from one body to the next, animal and human. The Church does not speak of soulmates or reincarnation. Rather, we speak about divine providence, the sacred dignity of human persons and how death does not destroy our identity. Among the many problems with reincarnation are the various conflicting theories, the absurdity of human souls in animals (St. Ambrose), the loss of self or identity and any maturation from one form to the next (Tertullian), the proposed forgetfulness from one life to the next (St. Irenaeus) and its conflict with the kerygma of faith given by Christ.
I know that critics might complain that hypnosis has provided evidence of past lives. However, this is not reliable because the same hypnosis purports to also prove alien abductions. Despite what many assume, hypnosis is no assurance that one is telling the truth. The mind can be manipulated and confused. I would argue that such testimonies under hypnosis are merely instances of those who have lost a genuine grip upon reality.
A traditional argument against reincarnation is that the population statistics are not stagnant. Our numbers continue to grow. This would be impossible if no new souls are created and they just pass from one dead body to a living one. The universal catechism teaches [CCC 366]: “The Church teaches that every spiritual soul is created immediately by God—it is not ‘produced’ by the parents—and also that it is immortal: it does not perish when it separates from the body at death, and it will be reunited with the body at the final Resurrection.”
Each of us is called by God to a vocation of faith and holiness. It is within this that there are particular callings. Men and women make choices. Some fall in love and get married. Others love God so thoroughly that they embrace a life of celibate love and service. There is no fate. Divine providence will prevail but this is not an absolute determinism. Free will is real. The sacrament of marriage reflects human nature. As with Adam and Eve, men and women were made for each other. These relationships are directed toward the fidelity of spouses and the generation of new human beings. There are other forms of friendship but marriage is foundational to the formation of the family.
God called a people to himself within the movement of salvation history. It is not a matter of favorites although there is a unique status for the Church and believers. There is a progressive revelation up until the death of the last apostle. God shows his face so as to make ready a new people for himself, the Church. As for salvation, it is a gift not a prize we can demand or earn. God loves us but he will not force us to seek forgiveness. We do not deserve to go to heaven. Indeed, the sacrament of encounter with Christ and his saving power is the Catholic Church outside of which there is no salvation.
I do not know what you mean by a one-way intercom. God speaks to the souls of believers. He communicated through the Scriptures, the Church and prayer. There is even private revelation as with the apparitions of Mary. It may be that the problem is with you? Do you treat prayer as a soliloquy or as a conversational dialogue? Are you open to what God wants to say to you?
I am also an INFJ although my “F” score is very close to “T.” The personality designation has nothing to do with what you believe in. Such profiles are helpful in understanding preferred prayer forms but little else. You are making excuses. Each of us is to take the faith we are given and to make it our own through study, prayer and service. While ours is a faith seeking understanding— faith always requires a leap given the divine mystery. All that we know is only the scratching of the surface of something that is ineffable but real.
Is humanity the ultimate creation?
Does believing in soulmates (both romantic and aromantic/platonic) also mean believing in reincarnation?
Are women only created as partners to man? Like how Eve was created for to be with Adam.
Why did He have his ‘chosen’ people, and why does He have his ‘favourites’ if He loves us all just and fair?
Why is it that when He speaks to the guys back in the old days, He either speaks to them directly or thru angels where they literally talk to humans but now it’s only like a one-way intercom? Like we still have to figure out His mysterious ways.
I am an INFJ. I feel like I can’t just believe something I don’t truly understand. I am a believer because I grew up in a Catholic household, but it’s different when I actually found and understand that “truth” not just because somebody else told me it’s the truth.
Why did Satan want Moses body for?
Did King Herod really kill all those infants?
History is written by the winners.
My sister-in-law was married in the Church after college, had four children and then divorced. She is currently going through the annulment process. She recently became engaged and plans to marry in the fall (outside the Church). She is doing this because (1) “she already did that” and (2) can’t get married in the Church because she does not have an annulment.
My question is this:
I have children whom I have been raising in the Church. Would supporting this marriage be sending the wrong message, not only to my children but to her children as well?
The entire family is up in arms over this. Do we attend the wedding? We will always love her, but isn’t this living in sin if she gets married again and still does not have annulment?
Thank you.
How could I make a report to the Church about abuse of my family life by a priest without using a circular court
Does the Church investigate such issue itself?