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I had vasectomy about 7 years ago – getting it reversed in December. Is it a sin if I have marital relations with my wife until I have the reversal?
Fr joe, I struggle with scrupulosity, my question is can someone commit an act of apostasy if he switch to another religion for few seconds and then go back to jesus instantly afterwards? am I excommunicated?
Dear Father Joe,
I have become very interested in the Cristeros War. In fact, after learning about San Jose Sanchez del Rio, he has become one of my “go to” saints, for lack of a better Catholic phrase. I think of his martyrdom at such a young age. I think of his courage. This helps me get through the day and put up with whatever I need to, in order to remain a Catholic. I am not very brave, in fact I am a coward sometimes, but at this stage I will fight and die rather than renounce my faith. When I pray to the Virgin Mary, she helps me to be brave.
As am American, I was shocked by the recent statement by the Democrat politician “Beto” who was supposedly raised as a Catholic. He said he wanted to cut off tax exempt status for any religious organization that opposed gay marriage. This is an open assault on the Catholic Church as well as other Christian churches who uphold traditional family values.
I don’t care at this stage what the American government says about this. I look to the Church for what is right and wrong, not to the politicians of either party. If the so-called authorities wage war against the Church, so be it. It will be the duty of every Catholic to stand on the side of the Church in that case. I think every Catholic needs to be aware of the very dangerous situation we are in and pray every day for the victory of the politicians who stand for religious freedom.
I was very happy to learn that the Knights of Columbus sided with the Cristeros and some Knights went to fight with them against the evil Mexican government of Calles. I now have a new respect for the Knights. I had no idea of this history.
I think every Catholic in the USA should learn about the Cristero martyrs. This story has, I think, been suppressed in the USA. Although I learned a movie was made about it a few years ago. I haven’t seen it. I never even heard of it until recently. I came across this subject only by accident, when I heard the song “El Martes Me Fusilan” and wanted to know more about the Cristeros. Then I found out that Pope Francis had canonized San Jose Sanches del Rio.
I also have been learning about Our Lady of Guadalupe. I think she can be the key to unity between North American and Latin American Catholics.
Long live Christ the King and Our Lady of Guadalupe!
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Fr Joe,
I read the article about the woman who was ordained and then excommunicated.
Is it true that excommunication is a contract, and both parties have to agree? I find that assertion odd
Hello Father. I want to get laser hair removal but is this a sin since it’s permanent?
Fr Joe,
I read that for a plenary indulgence you can pray the rosary in church. I understand all the requirements associated, but what I’m unsure of is whether they mean a whole rosary (all 4 mysteries at one sitting) or does one mystery (which I generally pray daily) suffice?
Thank you!
Fr Joe,
I went to confession this am, and went into the front of the church to do my penance and pray the rosary. I looked up at the tabernacle at one point and saw a man standing there with the door open. He did something then closed it, genuflected and left.
I’m very new to the parish and don’t know everyone, but he wasn’t one of our priests or deacons.
I also cannot say for certain what he was doing because I was praying and only saw what I described. I’m wondering if this is ok and whether I should say anything to anyone?
Also, if you are performing a requirement for an indulgence, does the act of holy communion have to be separate from that in your Sunday obligation? If I went to mass on Sunday and receive communion then, go to confession on Tuesday and perform the action Tuesday, does that fulfill the requirements? Or do I need to get to mass asap? I have another chance Thursday.
Dear Father Joe,
When it comes to dating as a young adult, what specific activities are considered a sin? That is, are activities such as kissing, hugging, holding hands, or cuddling sinful acts? Which activities should I avoid?
Hi I was wondering. Does God frown on liposuction I’m thinking about getting it on my stomach and chest if you can please let me know thank you!
Hi Father, since there were no real forms of contraception during the life of Christ, why is the church so firm in its stance? And only in recent history (last couple hundred years) did it take a position on it?
Father, I’m very confused on your response regarding the wife’s use of the pill and the husband’s attempt to ensure no abortive affect by using a condom. What about the doctrine of the lesser evil? Wouldn’t it be less bad to use a condom then to accidentally conceive a child that is aborted by the pill? Even if the wife is taking the pill for non-contraceptive reasons?
My question on this matter is if God created us to love and serve in this world and the next ..Is it possible in God’s Magnificent plan of love and salvation that those who do not deliberately ignore the church because of how they were raised as a child and certain other circumstances not of their doing and die before they have a chance to know or understand the Catholic Faith ? I have been a Catholic for 69 years and follow the Catholic Church but there still must be compassion and love for them also! How do we help them even Christians who are strong in their Faith but still fail the light of Christ through the Catholic Church!
When Christ died and descended into hell and freed all those waiting for the promise of the First Resurrection who were not Catholic or Christian or baptized! Would not God and Jesus in their infinite mercy find a way for those who thru no fault of their own are raised Jewish, Muslem , Or Christian and so on!
Is there anything we can do as Catholics when sharing our belief s to give them hope of Redemption and saying the old line you are not Catholic you will not go to heaven. Marcel!
I am going through a preliminary injunction because I tried to help people at my company not breath glass and have eyswashes and safety gear. I called whistleblowers and boli but got the run around they just want cash not take action.
People are being hurt and I’m trying to fight it but I’m no lawyer. They are using the courts and my contract to silence me.
If I can’t defend myself how can I help others and why did god choose the bottom of the barrel of people to help them.?? Me
About to go to court soon have recordings and pictures of them dumping to the ground chemicals blowing silica and silicon carbide to the air running scrubbers of acid and oil into the air with no abatement.
What do I do when I have already lost but I’m the one that is right? People are being hurt. My buddies shovel diamond hard glass and breathe it into their lungs. Other people walk in acid. We moved the sensors in the air to 10 feet because they kept going off. We killed Brandon with those fumes. I will live with that forever.
Could you ask god or Mary to help? I can claim bankrupts on this but it don’t help them.
I want to help them they came to me and asked for help.
I will probably get in trouble for this too.
Can you help me help them or fight off the bad people?
I recently watched a scary movie, and in that movie it said the name of a “real” demon and that name has been stuck in my head and every night before bed I get really scared and get anxiety and stressed and I cant sleep and can’t stop thinking the name, is this bad and how do I make it stop?
Can you explain Matthew 7:11
Hello,
What do you think about this? What would priests/penitents be expected to do if such this were to become the law? And what if it wouldn’t stop there; what if priests would be expected to report confessed murderers or other serious crimes?
https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2019/04/28/california-religious-freedom-catholic-sex-abuse-column/3574921002/
A close relative and spouse recently gave birth. They have strayed from the church and dont plan to baptize. Is there any allowance or guidance given for a family member to baptize the child in secret? Does the child have to wait until they are old enough to request it themselves? What would happen if the child dies with original sin?
Dear Fr. Joe,
My wife and I are Practicing Catholics. We’re raising a daughter with Non-Verbal Autism. She’s physically 10 years old, but has the mentality of a 3-4 year old, due to her Developmental Delays.
Somebody gave us a Bible Story Picture Book entitled: “Bible Pictures for Toddlers.” It was published by an organization named: Christian Aid Ministries. I think they’re a Protestant Group. Is it acceptable for us to read this Book to our daughter?
Thank you in advance!
God bless you!
Sincerely,
Steven.
Hi again, Father. Thank you very much for answering my question on 13th October about self-Communication. For some reason I missed your reply until now. In the meantime I asked my Parish Priest about it. He said that he’d done it because they always offered Communion in both kinds at this pilgrimage site but that he had no Eucharist Minister and with only a small group it was okay for him to ask us to come up and self-Communicate. But from what you’ve said that is not a good reason and it was a liturgical abuse. That being the case, do you think there was any sin on my part to do this when, at the time, I wasn’t sure whether it was right or wrong (I ask for myself and also someone else who has asked me since what I thought)? Also, if this situation, or one like it, ever arose again would it be best to abstain from receiving Communion or can I self-Communicate if the priest makes this the only possible way to do so? Thanking you in advance for your reply. God bless, Nick.
Fr Joe, I have a situation that I don’t quite know how to morally handle.
My sister is almost 43. She has, over her life, financially drained my parents, who at this point are both retired and living on medicare and social security. My dad has lung cancer. He is anxious about leaving money behind for my mother.
My sister had a child out of wedlock early, and my parents felt the need to support her for the case of the child. They didn’t want to kick her out of the house because she couldn’t afford to raise the kid on her own. Even after she married the father and subsequently divorced him, they continued to support her, paying for new water heaters when hers died, cosigning car loans, etc. Right now, she is again divorced and raising another child by the second husband. She is living in a house that my father bought “as an investment”. She is almost never on time with the rent. She works as a recruiter, and her line or work tends to work on contract, and when the contract is up, she is out of a job. Recently (within the last few years) she attempted to start her own business. She had an investor and was using his money to pay her salary and keep her business going while she tried to place candidates. He got fed up with a lack of return on investment and pulled out. Mom and Dad decided to help her try to keep the business afloat, and she now owes them >$30K.
The house she is living in but does not own. However, she has put a LOT of time and money into this house, replacing cabinets and countertops, the stairs, appliances, etc. She fully expects to get credit for this input when Dad sells her the house. However, she cannot afford to buy it. She recently told me that if Dad sold the house, he would get enough money from it to wipe out her debt. Since she did most of the work herself, I am unsure exactly how much value add her work actually is. So I believe she has zero intention of paying them back. Meanwhile, my mom gave her a credit card with a zero balance to pay to have her phone reinstated so she could work from home, and to buy groceries. The phone bill was $270 and mom expected groceries of about $100. She checked the balance and it was almost $700, with charges from walmart.com Paying off that bill will take half of my mom’s social security check. This is typical of how she works. She recently got rid of an economical car that she said needed $2200 dollars of work, but bought a new car that has a $700/mo payment. She is unbelievably careless with money and my parents have enabled this.
Her adult daughter is married and has 4 kids. My daughter is close to her and she apparently has the same spending habits as her mother. She purposely doesn’t pay car notes so that they have money to go out to eat. (This I got from my daughter, not first hand)
Yesterday at work my sister called me and told me her daughter had a leaking washer and the dryer was broken and wanted me to buy her a new washer and dryer to the tune of $1000, ostensibly to be paid back with tax refund money.
I have the money. I just didn’t want to give it to her. I feel that supporting and continuing bail these two out is doing nobody in the family any good. They aren’t being forced to grow up and make smart decisions. They all have iphones, they eat out and buy new stuff all the time. My sister smokes. There are tons of ways they could economize and sacrifice and live off of their own salaries, but they are leaning on my retired parents. And I don’t want to be the next person being asked for money once my parents are gone. I’m 50 and just requested to cut back at work, so my income will be less.
I realize that Jesus told us to be charitable and give without thought of repayment, and so on. But at what point does it become stupid to give them money? Did I sin by not wanting to just hand that cash out?
When she asked what she was supposed to do about the laundry, I told my sister: “Tell her to turn the water off to the machine and mop up the floor. Take the clothes to a laundromat to dry or hang them up in the yard. I will discuss the situation with my husband when we are not at work.”
She called later to say that the situation worked itself out. (apparently the husband is going to try to fix the dryer himself or “rig it”)
I try to be generous with the money God has placed in my care, but honestly, these two just have zero sense and don’t seem to have any compunction about asking for money, and obviously have little care for the burden that type of thing is to others.
But Father, I’d the birth control could cause an abortion, wouldn’t the lesser of two evils be to use a condom to prevent that potential outcome?
hello, Im not sure if this is the right place to ask questions.. kind of confused by the layout so sorry if its not. My concern is about eating blood and how in the old and new testament (begining with noah) it says its the life force of the animal and not to eat it. Im really confused by this. Ive read The Council of Florence say that it had to do with the mosiac law and that it only applied to the early Church, but if so, why does Noah also abstain from blood since it came before then. The other parts of the new testament about nothing being unclean seems like it applies to animals since they were labelled unclean but I dont know if blood ever was. if you could reply soon Id really appreciate it. honestly I do have scrupulosity that makes me question things to the nth degree but its involentary and the part in the Bible about doubting whether something is right to do (the part about people with weak conciouses) makes me feel compelled to find out the right ansewr or else Im sinning. I did ask a priest about this already but he said the Jews would have written about Noah and thats why they transferred the thing about blood.. but then if they did, why did he tell Noah he could eat any animal, unlike them. I would go to the priest Im speaking with off and on but it may be a while before I can speak with him again and this is affecting me badly.. Im afraid to take my anti anxiety which imight be dangerous to go off of suddenly because I learned it probably contains animal by products, which might contain blood. Im sorry if this is too much pressure. Really don’t know what to do. -Christina
Hi Father Joe — Hope this is not a dumb question, but in the Nicene Creed, what is the distinction being made between “God” and “True God” (when we say “God from God…True God from True God”)? What’s the difference? If not different, then why say it twice? Thanks!
To Daniel, I too have suffered from great depression so know the dark place you are in and feel like there is no way out. FR. Joe is correct you must start with the first step is a good confession may be even make appointment with a priest for Spiritual Guidance. I owe my life and soul to the Agustinians. Remeber to not let the depression rule your soul and mind. You will also need professional help for the two work hand in hand.Donnot for get the Holy Spirit and our Blessed Mother they are powerful resources! Just pray and talk to God Who is already waiting.
I will preay for you my brother in Christ! Peace of Christ be with you !