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If, according to the Catholic religion, a person needs to believe in Jesus in order to be saved spiritually, what happened to all the people who lived before Jesus came to the world? Are they forever in Purgatory because they didn’t have that chance? Or are they exempt because they had no choice? Thank you
How do you feel about cigars? Is it okay to smoke one like once a year? Or is this sinful?
Hi Father,
My Father in law is very anti Catholic, he is coming to visit soon & I’m getting nervous. I generally just stay silent when he starts going on about praying to Mary and other things he disagrees with. What should I do? keep the peace and say nothing or reply and risk causing a rift between us? He is a born again christian.
Hello Father Joe,
A young man cheated when he was going to College, and now, even though he repented and confessed that sin, he thinks he can lose his soul if he keeps the Cum Laude degree.
He cheated mainly on one of the subjects (one not relevant for his degree). The rest was the normal stuff that the others did, like looking around for an answer during exams, the occasional event of an answer key that felt into their hands, or sharing homework. He says that the fact that others did it too doesn’t make it right (that’s true but I think he is being too hard on himself at this point in time).
Aside from studying he also was very active with extracurricular activities, a part time job, and in the church. He dedicated lots of time to helping others.
The company where he was working part time, kept him and gave him a promotion to a good position as a professional. He is a good worker, always has been.
Even though he truly repented and confessed the sin of cheating, eight months after graduation he suddenly felt that he is guilty of lying with that degree. He thinks he can lose his soul if he keeps the cum laude part of it, and sometimes he even thinks that keeping the degree at all is a sin.
So he is considering to go “come clean”, by telling the University that he cheated, even if that means to loose his degree and his current job (and so many other consequences).
Whatever the consequences, he says, just so that he doesn’t lose his soul.
Is he right on this?
Thank you so much.
Is watching the news/learning about information or incidents that were showed on news channels and websites detraction?
Hello Father,
I am a Protestant who recently got baptized. I have been a believer in Christ for a long time. I gave my life to Christ at the age of 7 or 8 years old. Thru my time away from the church I have committed many mortal sins have that led me to my breaking point. I have committed adultery against my wife and i know that in doing so, I have deeply hurt the One who loves me the most. My wife found out about my infidelity on October 25th and we have been separated ever since. She will no longer talk to me and we are going thru a divorce. For a long time I have objectified sex by polluting my mind with pornography. I haven’t watched any pornography ever since we separated and I do not ever want to watch it again. I have masturbated at the thought of my wife since we have been separated, but I realized about a month and a half ago, that lusting after my wife and masturbating at the thought of her is also a sin. I am attending a 12 step program to help me stay away from these thoughts that have plagued my mind for so long, as well as, staying in God’s word. I turned my life back over to Christ and was baptized two weeks. I know my sins have been washed away. I am never going to fall back into infidelity ever again. The self-gratification clouded my mind from seeing the destruction of the love and trust that my wife had for me. She grew up in the Catholic Church, but is unwilling to go see any Christian based counseling with me at this time. I will not give of hope of reconciliation to my wife, even if she divorces me, unless she marries another man. I am certainly going to stay away from temptation as much as possible and seek counsel from God’s word to guide my path from here on out. I would really appreciate any words of advice that you would be willing to give me. Thank you for your time.
What can you tell me about Access consciousness therapy as far as the church is concerned. I feel it is as bad as rieki. Does the church condemn this as well?
Hello, Father!
Is it disrespectful (or even a sin) to pray Rosary in sauna (alone, of course)?
In our culture sauna has a strong cultural background- women gave birth in sauna, also it was the only place our ancestors could wash themselves during winter. Also, it could be a form of mortification even; to tolerate the heat.
Hi Father Joe!
Throughout the last 15 years of marriage, my husband and I have dug ourselves a decent amount of debt. Some of this was obviously frivolous spending and at other times, things like daycare expenses, husband finishing college while I was the main one working, etc., led to some of the debt. We decided to get pay off of all credit cards except my husbands and we have done that. We currently owe about 20,000 worth of debt on his card so we say down and created a good plan. Thanks to God’s blessings in our jobs we are able to pay 450 a month on this card while paying off our monthly needs, a few monthly wants, and saving some money as well. We also tithe and are giving extra money each month for the building of our new school and church. Our plan is to have this card payed off in the next 4 years.
About a year ago, we decided we would like to take a trip this next summer. We will be married 15 years and don’t get many opportunities for alone time with 3 kids. We have been saving money each month for this trip and are planning to go next summer. While I know we owe money in debt, I just want to make sure that saving money for a trip wouldn’t be sinful. I feel like for the first time I am actually proud of how we have been saving actual cash for this trip and not just running to the credit card to save the day. Does this sound reasonable to you? I tend to be scrupulous and want to make sure I am not mortally sinning.
Thanks so much!
Are you in danger of acting on these impulses?
Father Joe,
I am in recovery from PTSD from a sexual assault. I have a wonderful Catholic therapist (in addition to my regular doctor). In fact, in my recovery I feel myself drawn again to Christ and His Church. I feel that I am rediscovering my Catholic faith in so many ways. In fact, I am planning to attend a silent retreat later this year.
My question is this: How does the Church feel about yoga as an exercise practice? I am reading some contradictory opinions. My friend who is also Christian (though not Catholic) is a survivor of assault and recommends the practice for its discipline. My therapist sees no problem either as long as I am sure to find a secular yoga class. There are plenty in my city.
Hi, I was baptized in the Moravian Church. When I was in 7th grade me and my mother wanted to become Catholic. The Catholic Church where we completed our RCIA had accepted our Baptism certificates from the Moravian Church that issued them and told us that the baptism was valid and that we would be confirmed and allowed to join the Catholic Church in full communion at the Easter Vigil which we did. Now years later I came across an article on the internet that states that the Catholic Church considers a Moravian Baptism to be “doubtful.” Can you please let me know if my baptism that was performed by a Moravian minister is valid. I know that he did use the Trinitarian formula however he used “Holy ghost” instead of “Holy spirit” in the ritual. Can you please let me know why I am finding some information online that says a Moravian baptism has a possibility to be an invalid baptism. Is it because the Moravian’s refer to the Holy Spirit as the Holy Ghost? Please help me because I am now worried that my baptism was not a valid baptism. I do not think the Catholic Church that I belong to now would have allowed me to be confirmed and receive the Eucharist if the Baptism was not a valid Baptism, right? Thank you so much!
Hi Fr.
How can I best explain to those that ask me about Matthew 23:9, when we Catholics call priests “Father”?
Hello Father! I had a mass said for a dead relative. They put it in the bulletin and many of our relatives were there. During the mass the priest did not mention the name of the relative. Did our loved one still receive the benefits of the mass said for them? The parish priest was out the day of the mass and a replacement said the mass.
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Happy New year Father Joe.
Good day yesterday I was playing in a casino which I do not do regularly. I won a price of $666! Later in the game I was at $66.66! I played my last game of the day and it said $6.66 left. Should I be concerned ?
I hope you can give me some clarity. While there are things going on in the Catholic Church that I am not happy with, and at times I am not happy with things coming from Rome or Pope Francis…..I am Catholic and I love the Church. I would never undermine it. Thoughts, actions or speech. Others do not share my sentiment. Lately I have been hearing about how great the Anglo Catholic church is. I am trying to be well equipped to defend our church. Can you explain it some to me? Is their Eucharist valid?
Thanks for your help.
Hi Fr. Joe-
Do you believe that physical signs as a form of communication can break through into our world from God, Jesus, or Mary?
I have been going through some very tough things in my life. Recently I met a friend who loves praying as I do, and we have been praying the rosary, Evening Prayer, and the Divine Mercy Chaplet together multiple times a week. Our friendship has developed a tight bond and it has allowed my spiritual and prayer life to soar.
Recently she and I were praying the rosary. There was an intensity of peace that we both were experienced. We were praying the sorrowful mysteries an at the start of the 3rd decade I noticed that my fingers were feeling slippery. I looked down at my fingers and there was an oily substance on them. It definitely was not from my hands because I work in healthcare and in the winter my hands are very dry from all the washing.
My wooden rosary beads were suddenly all shiny and wet, covered in a oily substance. I have had these rosary beads all my life. I got them in college at the gift store at St. Joseph’s Abby in Spence, Massachusetts when I was visiting there. That was over 25 years ago. They have never been shiny and oily. They are wooden and a little rough normally.
I showed my friend and she touched them and got some of the oil visibly on her fingers too. I’m so glad there was someone else to witness this. Immediately, bit tears rolled down my cheeks. My friend had to finish the rosary because I was almost speechless.
Any thoughts on this? I have always been skeptical of people who claim to have physical signs like this happen. Now, I’m not sure what to think. Even now, the beads are still oily and shiny.
Thanks for any thoughts or insights.
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In a previous post you mentioned that presumption is a sin. Could you expand on that please?
I have a question about Heaven and Hell.
Are some people truly damned?
Is Hitler in Hell?
Are serial killers?
What if the things they did were because of being psychotic or some other mental illness?
I think that to do something so egregious to so many that ‘messed-up’, they must have something wrong with them. More than just learned ideologies, like on a physical level. Maybe brain chemistry or some affliction. If that’s the case then are their actions truly their fault as seen by God? Wouldn’t he take into account such things? How does God draw the line between acts committed by one’s body and chemistry, as he designed, versus those committed by one’s soul.
And, if I’m lucky enough to go to heaven… wouldn’t it be a possibility to see Hitler, Dahmer, Gacy, etc. there?
Especially since Jesus is all forgiving. Even if they knew their sins at the time, if they repent at their death, could they still be Saved?
Hello Father,
I checked out a Christian fiction novel from the local library. It is about a struggling married couple who unexpectedly become foster parents. Seems like it should be a wholesome book. However I came to a part where the husband sees the wife naked and implies that she wants intimacy. No explicits where mentioned. I stopped reading it because I was concerned it may be sinful to read. Would it be sinful to read? If so did I commit a venial or mortal sin? I was under the impression that Christian fiction would be a good read. Thank you for your time and consideration. Leanne
Hi, Father Joe,
I am feeling really confused of late in regards to my faith. I grew up attending Catholic schools and while I was never overly religious, I have always been curious about faith. I’m now 30 years old, and over the past 6 months or so I’ve had strong urges to start researching Christianity, read Scripture and bring God into my life. This all seems to have come out of nowhere as neither my immediate family nor my wife’s are Christians— not even any of my close friends. The other night I was lying in bed and I felt a strong need to go to church and pray; so I jumped into my car and headed down to my local church. Of course it was closed as it was 11:00 PM at night! I guess out of all this, I’m looking for some guidance and help on what this all means… is God calling to me in some way? If so will he accept me this late in life knowing that I’ve never been a strong believer in the past and am very weak in my faith?
Thank you Father.
My husband and i have been married over 11 years. We hardly argue and get along great. 2 years ago, my husbands ex fiance, from 20 years ago called him out of the blue. She cheated on him, and gave back the ring with no reason. She called to apologize. In the 2 years, she has emailed him.a happy birthday, twice. He told me that when asked. He gave me access to view his email if i want which i never do. He said he has nothing to hide. I was looking for something and came across a few 2 sentence Merry Christmas emails. She wished us both a merry Christmas and signed it ” all my love” and thinking of u always. He wished her one back with love always and just his name, mine not included. When i questioned him on the inappropriate wording he responded that her brother passed away in Sept. And she contacted him and then again to say her father was ill. He knew them both. I asked if this has been a continuous conversation and he said no sometimes it takes 3 weeks to respond. I was shocked and hurt. I mentioned that things might get to be more and more and use him as an emotional crutch. He said she has a boyfriend. I dont want to be selfish but i also dont want this to become more and more frequent. He says he loves me more than anything and would never leave but hes a nice guy and probably wouldnt tell her to stop. Ive read how “emotional connections” are very hurtful. I feel like ive lost some trust in him. He didnt want to tell me that she wrote because he said i would get mad. Im mad but more hurt. Weve actually have been closer than ever since weve talked and he assures me not to worry. Am i wrong in feeling like i do? Feels like someone ripped my heart out. He feels nothing was wrong about this and said hes not interested and keeps telling me not to . i dont want to sound like a broken record and keep bringing it up. I said he maybe incouraging her to keep writing by him answering. He agreed i was right but im.not sure if it will stop. Do i ask him to stop completely? Or watch what he says, which ive already said to him?
I want this to work and he said weve been closer than ever. Any advice?
Good afternoon Father,
Quick question…I was reading a book on management that I wanted to share with my team at work, but I came across a sentence that I felt might be blasphemous and didn’t want to propagate such words further. The book contains a sentence that when talking about developing your employees that says “The good Lord had some development needs.” It is trying to make the point that every employee has areas they need development. Obviously though, this sentence is terrible given we know that God is all-perfect. How should I handle this? Is it blasphemous? Should I black it out in the book I share with them? Not share it at all? Thanks for your help! -A