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Hello, Father. I would like to know if you received my question. If not, here it is:
Are there any exceptions about not performing abortions? What could be done if a mother or/and her unborn child were to die due to a complicated pregnancy? Even more extreme, the mother is a much needed leader in the world.
Hi, I’m a Catholic from RSA. My mother is Catholic and my father never went to church until he passed away in 2004, and because of this they never had sacramental marriage. Though my mother was a baptised catholic she only went to church sometimes. After my father’s death, she became more serious in church and she was trying join St Anne’s sodality. The then Priest in my parish of St Alphons told my mother a month before the official welcoming of new members that she can’t join the st Annes because her marriage was not recognised by the church. And if she wishes to join the St Annes she must get married and she told the priest that her husband has been dead for 3 years how can that be possible. the priest told her to bring her boyfriend or go wake his husband and get married in the church. And That broke my mother she was constantly crying 😢 because she had just started healing from the passing of my father. Then she just stopped going to church, my sisters also stopped and my brother left the church, because of what the priest / church said to mom. And they were also telling me that I should be siding with my mom instead of siding with the church. But I was not siding with anyone I was just going to church every Sunday bcz that is how I was raised. Even though I thought that the issue should have been handled in a better way. I am the only member of the the church in my family because of an inconsiderate person in my opinion. Was there any other way in which the situation should have been handled rather than “get a boyfriend or wake your dead husband and get married “? I am still in the church because I told myself that was not my battle to fight. I can’t say the same about my siblings. It hurts because I don’t know when I die if they will let the church celebrate the in my funeral. What was the right way to handle the issue
Can you explain this?
“The Vatican has rejected as “more smoke than fire” a BBC documentary to be screened Monday, which promises to probe the late Polish pontiff John Paul II’s romantic liaison with married, Polish-born philosopher Anna-Teresa Tymieniecka. “The Secret Letters of Pope John Paul II” sheds new light on the pope’s emotional ties with Tymieniecka, who kept every shred of paper and celluloid related to her 32-year friendship with John Paul II.”
Father, I hate the people with whom I work. I really am not crazy about my sister.
I am a drug addict who loves her drugs. I steal pills and lie. I have surrounded my life with pills and anger. I am not willing to change.
But am praying, never miss Mass and I am an adorer in the chapel for years. What can I do?
Hello Father,
my name is Amber Jones and I am an A-Level pupil in St. Brigid’s School in Denbigh. I am completing my Religious studies A-Level, however, I have come unstuck on a certain aspect of my studies and i was wondering if you would be able to help me. The area in question is whether a belief in life after death is necessary for religious believers and to what extent to Christians value its importance.
Thank you for taking the time to read my email and i would be grateful of any guidance.
Many Thanks,
Amber Jones
I know an Episcopalian who is disheartened with their church and goes to Catholic Church !
Is it a sin for them to receive communion , they say it’s not s sin under episcopal definition ?!
So is sin defined by your church not another?
Thanks , peace be with you !
Hello Father Joe,
I have a question regarding Revelations 22: 18-19. The passage forbids adding or subtracting from the message of the prophecy. As a writer I am writing a novel inspired by the end times. However I am reluctant to continue as I by no means wish to jeopardized my relationship with God. I think of other works inspired by the book of Revelations such as the left behind series and I wonder is it wrong for to produce and consume such forms of entertainment? Thank you in advanced Father for your guidance on this matter. God bless!
-Sam
First, thank you for offering this service. I don’t know why I didn’t think to look for it before now.
Here is the problem I find myself having. It requires a bit of background information, for which I apologize in advance.
I have a history of trauma that causes me to be extremely careful and extremely risk-averse. I have always wanted a relationship with the Divine in some way.
One day, I was listening as someone in my family was watching a religious program. A woman was preaching, telling a story about how she gave her life to God. She said as soon as she gave her life over to God’s will, she more or less went bankrupt, lost everything, and ended up living out of her car with her family. This absolutely terrified me, and I have been scared to pray or really have anything to do with spirituality ever since.
I don’t know what my actual question is, but can you provide any guidance, or even just comfort about this issue? What am I supposed to do? Is that stuff going to happen to me if I pray or talk to God? I have known a lot of pain and gotten a lot of horrible surprises, including being homeless, and I’m really not willing to even risk experiencing any more of that. Please help. Thank you so much for your time.
I have a question. My daughter, baptized catholic, is now engaged to be married to a man who is Methodist. They both have been attending his church and she has been going there for over 4 years. They will be getting married there next year. As a catholic person, does she need to do anything to be married in the Methodist church? And if she is planning to attend this church for the rest of her life. What should she do? My father, an ordained Deacon in the Catholic church won’t come to the wedding as she is not getting married in a catholic church. I am just wanting to make it right by my daughter and I don’t know what to say to my father. Any help?
Thank you
Therese
Dear Fr Joe,
May a mentally ill person who is on long term medication to keep madness(psychosis) away get married? This may mean stopping medication for a while to be open to the possibility of pregnancy as the drug harms babies in utero. Meanwhile sanity risks not being maintained. I am thinking ahead do I just stay single? Your thoughts will be appreciated.
God bless you father.
Is it a sin to work on a Sunday? I am thinking of applying for a seasonal job during the summer as I am a school bus driver for 10 months. This job would be a shuttle driver and it is busy on the weekends. You are pretty much expected to work Saturday and Sunday. I of course do not need to take this job and I would also go to Mass on Sunday but since I do not need this job but pretty much do need a seasonal job is it a sin to take it?
Good morning Father: we are Practicing Catholics.. both our spouses died and after 11 yrs, we decided to marry in CostaRica. We received a blessing from a Catholic priest.we have not had a sacramental marriage in the USA. Are we permitted to receive the Eucharist since we both have had all the sacraments as children. Thank you for your response.. my husband doesn’t want the legal ramifications because his monies are tied up in a trust for his children. Thank you for your quick response.. Mary
Hello Father,
I have a somewhat random question: what is the morality regarding cooperation with the creation or potential use of nuclear weapons. That is, would it be mortally sinful for a Catholic to work as part of an ICBM launch crew for the Air Force or for an engineer to design planes that may carry nuclear weapons?
Thank you very much.
Father Joe: Our friends parents have committed murder/suicide yesterday. They were not believers. Is there support Biblically for post mortem evangelism? (PME salvation)
We want to be witnesses to our friends who are hurting and questioning so much. Thank you.
Fr. Joe, I have a very sensitive topic to discuss and ask a question about. I hope this does not offend your readers. My husband and I have confessed an abortion several years ago. There were lots of medical circumstances that led to this terrible, awful decision, and I regret it every single day and have been unable to forgive myself and my husband for it. The side effects of this (aside from the terrible anguish and grief) are that I am starting to really despise my husband. I can’t forgive him for letting me go through this. He says he did it out of fear of losing me, but I wish I had risked my own life to save my child’s and I am not sure I will ever forgive either of us. It is ruining my marriage and I just can’t seem to stop the hateful thoughts I have toward the man I promised to love forever. I cannot be intimate with him anymore because of it. I have spoken to my former priest about this and have been to counseling. I guess what I am looking for is advice about how this will affect my eternal salvation: not just because of the crime of the abortion, but because of my terrible feelings toward my husband. I really want to strive to be a BETTER person for God, not worse. But I am sad and so deeply disappointed in the partnership that I thought we would have, and were supposed to have, as a married couple. We have three other children whom we love who know nothing about this. They believe that I miscarried. We could never tell them the horrible, ugly truth.
I am in a desperate situation whether I either go without health care (which is greatly needed – I have several severe health issues) or divorce, so that I can qualify for health care. My husband does not make enough money to pay for health care and I am unable to work. I applied for disability 6 years ago and still haven’t been given a decision (it keeps going through appeal after appeal), so I have no income. Is it a sin to divorce my husband so that I can get the help I need and still live together as husband and wife?
Father Joe, thank you so much for your timely response. Your questions are excellent and perhaps just we need to progress. We will ask our priest if we have to take more classes and wait the 6 months. We will also ask if they allow adults to join the church at other times besides Easter. We have attempted to schedule meetings with our priest several times, most recently last Sunday…not to meet on Sunday, but to schedule something for later. He said he didn’t have time, and wanted to know what our rush was…said we had waited this long. My husband turns 65 this year. I turn 63. We have been married 27 years this year. My husband is a prostate cancer survivor and I am a uterine cancer survivor. I am certain we ARE impatient. Thank you again for your response.
Hello Father,
I am doing a Religion assignment for school. It is in relation to Confession. Would you mind answering a few questions of mine?
Recently a Roman Catholic Confession app has been released, to help you prepare for confession. What is your opinion on this?
What is the purpose of Confession?
Also, do you see a any changes in people once they have confessed their sins?
Thanks so much!
– Kat
Hello Father Joe , Where do Catholic Priests receive their authority to do things that Priests only do , for example, confect the Eucharist, hear Confessions, give the Anointing of the Sick, and, in some cases, give Confirmation ? .
I had cause to speak to our priest yesterday, which is never a pleasurable experience as he is not the most approachable person. It was about my daughters First Holy Communion. I was not very pleased as to what she had learned so far. I feel he should be spending more time with the children at this very important time. He repeated the conversation to her teacher and made it out I was complaining about her. Should he have done this? The teacher was upset thinking I went behind her back.
Fr., thank you for all that you do. If I committed a sin as a boy that was objectively mortal but didn’t know it was mortal but I did know it was seriously wrong is it still mortal
My husband was not Catholic. He began attending mass and attended RCIA classes. He has not missed mass nor a holy day of obligation in over 3 years. But he has not been allowed to join the Catholic Church because he was married twice before. Those marriages have now (after 3 years) been annulled. I was Catholic, married in the Catholic Church, divorced but he died over 20 years ago. Do we have to be have our marriage convalidation done before he can join the church? We intend to do this, but why does he have to wait to join the church? It seems to me that according to this, he cannot become Catholic because we are not married in the Church, and we cannot get our marriage blessed, convalidated until he becomes a Catholic. We have agreed to live as brother and sister until this resolved. He so wants to receive communion. We are both in our 60’s. Thank you in advance for any information you can provide.
I have heard conflicting things about the announcing of the sick. I have heard, and it seems so in the catechism, that it is reserved for when one is in danger of death. However, I see priests offering it openly to anyone for spiritual and physical healing at healing masses. Are there strict rules for this?
Hi Father,
I have recently been studying the history of the church and I can’t help but be utterly fascinated by the Second Vatican Council. I really want to learn about this topic but I am having trouble learning about the impacts that the Council has had on the modern day church. Perhaps ‘you’ could tell me about some of the impacts that you think the Council had on the modern day church.
Any response would be appreciated.
Hello Father,
I was just reading the bible and I found so many inspirational passages. I was wondering if you had a favourite part of the bible. If so I would love to hear about it and what it means to you.
Thank you in advance,
Rocco,